New Years Resolution (2017)
Here’s one of my new year’s resolutions. To be less snobby. For most of my life, there is a bunch of stuff I have been snobby about. I’ve been a grammar snob, a music snob, a movie/tv snob, a food snob, a shoe snob, a Bible snob, a sports snob, and more. Much more I’m afraid and I’m guessing some of you reading this could easily add to the list. (please feel no such compulsion). For the most part my snobbery comes less from a true sense of superiority than it does a high degree of confidence in my own opinions and a genuine love for arguing in support of said opinions. (wait is that the same thing? hmmm). If only I could find a profession that allowed me to embrace that love…someday perhaps.
And sometimes being a snob is just fun. It makes me feel better about myself and is a nearly unending source of comedy both self-deprecating and…other-deprecating. Plus it gives me a sense of community with like minded snobs. Hey, you hate it too when people say “irregardless” or “I could care less”? We can be friends!
But holding strong opinions and then being willing to advance them as though they were sacred gospel has the rather unwelcome consequence of turning one into a snob. And frankly, snobs are just unpleasant and exhausting to be around. I hate to think about all the people who have spent time with me only to leave thinking, “congratulations dude, I bet you’re awesome at diagramming a sentence and other useless skills, just shut up already.”
Well this year one of my goals is to leave fewer people with the impression that I think I’m better than them because I like something different than they do.
So, I am going to adopt the mantra of the great philosopher poet Shock G (AKA Humpty) and try to make plenty of space for the people around me to “doowutchyalike.” I like TV, you like to read. Great. I like to say “to whom were you talking?”, you like to say, “who were you talking to?” No problem. You like country, I like hip-hop. Good for you. I like brightly colored sneakers, you like Keens. Terrific.
I’m not going to stop having strong opinions or even give up sharing them from time to time. But I am going to try to make a concerted effort to to never leave anyone with the impression that I think myself more, or them less, just because of those opinions. I can love what I love without making anyone feel less for loving what they love. At least I think I can.
I’m sure it won’t happen over night, but I’m going to do my best.
I invite you all to join me and identify something you like that makes you feel superior just for liking that and knock it off. I’m looking at you hybrid drivers, wine lovers, readers, cross-fit cult members, people who love bands we’ve never heard of guy looking back at me in the mirror. Don’t stop loving what you love, just stop acting like loving it makes you better than someone who loves something else.