How Consistency Can Help You Achieve Your Goals
The age of instant gratification has made us soft.
Sure, it’s convenient that we have access to anything we want at our fingertips. However, as someone that believes in the concept of cause and effect, what is the effect of having these luxuries?
- Order anything we want and have it tomorrow
- Swipe right and get a date tonight
- Open our phones and communicate with anyone in the world almost instantly
These are marvelous wonders of technology, but it’s made us impatient and we have lost a lot of our grit as a result.
The things that truly matter in life take time. They don’t happen overnight. Which is why you must cultivate a relentless consistency.
I love getting messages from followers and friends about how they’ve started a fitness journey. It’s wonderful to see people make their health a priority.
But of course, I’m originally from New Jersey so I’m going to tease them about it.
“Hey Chris! I’ve gone to the gym four days in a row!”
“And? What? You think you’re entitled to abs now? Keep going, damn it! Call me when you’ve gone for six months straight.”
Secretly, I’m really proud of them, but I also enjoy lighting a fire underneath their ass. Something that makes them say under their breath, “I’ll show him.”
We must remember that one healthy meal will not make you healthy. Just as one workout will not make you fit.
The opposite is true too. One “bad” meal or cheat meal will not make you unhealthy and one day off from the gym will not make you overweight.
It happens little by little, over time. Consistently taking steps.
And that is what happens when it comes to our goals and dreams too.
There isn’t an app for perfect health. You cannot order it. Rather, it is the daily, consistent effort which compounds over time that leads you to your end result.
I remember when I first started training seriously. I wanted to look like Brad Pitt from Troy or Hugh Jackman from The Wolverine.
I bought magazines like Flex and Muscle & Fitness anytime they were on the cover. Or, if I saw someone with a “Greek God” body, I’d buy it straight away. Talk about good marketing!
Normally, on the cover there would be an arrow pointing to their abs which said something like:
“Get Abs like these in 3 weeks!”
The reality is, you can have the perfect health and training plans. And you could be implementing them consistently everyday. It’s still going to take time for you to see results! Any visible changes will take more like 3 months, as opposed to 3 weeks. If anything, I’d venture to say it could take even longer.
Consistency is your weapon against our impatience. We have to make a vow to ourselves to stay consistent with our plans. Stop looking to cut corners on this. If you’re looking for the easy out, you will fail.
There will be delays, frustrations, and setbacks. If we can anticipate that ahead of time, vowing that we will continue to walk this path no matter what, then we will succeed.
I recently had the privilege of speaking with a couple who celebrated their 40th anniversary. And they were still so in love. They were holding hands, flirting, and teasing each other like they had just had their first date.
I asked them,
“If you don’t mind me asking, what advice could you give me about having a successful relationship?”
The man at first said,
“Learn the words ‘Yes, dear!’ and say them often! Happy wife, happy life!”
To which his wife jokingly slapped him on the shoulder.
He then kissed her on the cheek and said,
“You know I’m only teasing, my love. I appreciate you.”
He then said seriously,
“Honestly? I never take her for granted and I always acted like she was still never mine. I just kept doing the things I did when I was first trying to get her to go out with me!”
The wife then said,
“I constantly keep it fresh. Variety is the spice of life and it keeps him interested.”
I interjected asking,
“But you’ve both been consistent with both of these approaches, correct?”
To which the both replied in unison:
Swiping right can get you a date, but can it give your ride or die? Maybe. That depends on you and how consistent you are. If you think that just because you go that girl or guy that you can sit back and relax, think again.
In the beginning — when you didn’t have that person — you were consistently:
- Making an effort
We do this in order to “win over” the person that we like. We show the best version of ourselves and we have a desire to outshine any other potential lovers.
As soon as we get the person, we settle. Bad call.
Settling is being inconsistent with what got us the guy/girl we were initially after. Why do people suddenly stop doing the actions and behaviors which got them the goal?
You got the person now, and then you settle? Don’t settle. Don’t rest on your laurels. Take it up a notch! Take it further. And then maybe, one day, you’ll be celebrating your 40th anniversary too.
Your Goals & Dreams
No goal or dream was ever achieved without consistent work ethic. Even if it seems by some miracle that someone “got lucky” and booked a movie on their first audition, they must be consistent in order to maintain what they’ve achieved. And then, to hold it down.
Think of anyone who has ever achieved wild success. We normally see an interview where they tell us a watered down version of their journey. We only see the Oscar acceptance speech. We don’t see the many films prior to the Oscar win or the hundreds of rejections in auditions.
Think of the champions on the podium receiving the gold medal with their hand raised in victory.
What we don’t see are the thousands of hours of practice that went into getting there. We don’t see the early morning training sessions, the weeks of studying, or the act of them burning the midnight oil in order to improve upon their craft.
No champion, movie star, hero, or idol achieved — and maintained — their status from luck. They didn’t have a lucky rabbit’s foot or were born under the right star. It was from consistent perseverance, grit, and work ethic over time.
You can’t Amazon prime your goals or your dream life. So stop trying to.
Take this quote and write it on a post-it. Put it in a location where you see it everyday:
“Without commitment, you’ll never start. But more importantly, without consistency, you’ll never finish.” — Denzel Washington
I have this quote from Denzel on a post-it note next to my bed. I need to remind myself of it often because I also suffer from wanting instant gratification. If you’re a creature of massive ambition like I am, then we will mostly likely suffer from attacks of impatience.
Impatience is our biggest enemy because it gets in our heads and plays tricks with us. It makes us think that it’ll take so long to achieve the life that we desire and we are more likely to throw our hands in the air saying, “Screw it.” And we give up on consistency. That is what we must avoid because it means the death of our goals and dreams.
Cultivate the habit of being consistent.
It’s not just the journey we need to prepare for, but the urge to quit.
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