Maybe We’ve Got Love All Wrong…

What if we are programmed to pursue not what brings us happiness, but what brings us revelation?

A. Joshua W.
In Medio Stat Veritas
9 min readJan 12, 2024

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I am intensely curious about the recent trend among many men & women of various ages choosing not to marry, to reject monogamous relationships, and essentially to abandon the goal of establishing a long-term commitment to one person. I’ve read a number of articles which present many rational & intelligent reasons that someone might make such a decision, and seen nothing which suggests to me that their logic might be faulty, their information inaccurate, or their conclusions misguided. Everyone has a right to have their own preferences about the relationships they form, as well as the right to choose not to form relationships at all.

That being said, I find myself second-guessing the factors which might influence a person to make such a decision, and pondering the long-term consequences upon them as an individual & society in general. I’m not one of those that espouses any sort of return to “traditional” values — one generation’s tradition is another generation’s prison, and life is inherently & eternally in a state of change; to resist this is to resist the very nature of the universe — nor do I have any desire to dictate what others should or should not do in their personal lives. I simply cannot help but…

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A. Joshua W.
In Medio Stat Veritas

Full-time single father of 3 sons, INFJ, HSP/empath, narc abuse survivor, former rising star in chiropractic until lies & biases destroyed my career.