A Letter To The Girlfriend From The Other Girl

I met him again after 10+ years of not seeing each other at a family wedding. My family adores him and he adores them. You weren’t there for some reason. Maybe it was because the tickets to the wedding were expensive. I walked up to him talking to my dad about you at the reception. Soon after, it was me, him and another guy talking about you and how you are the one he is probably going to marry. I was truly happy for him.

Later on that night some of the groomsmen and I were talking about relationships and open relationships. He mentioned he was in one. After the afterparty of the wedding, a few of us stayed up and danced to music. It was then just me and him, and there was a moment where he gazed into my eyes and then kissed me passionately. We had sex that night.

That was three months ago. I thought it was going to be a one night stand and I would never hear from him again, but we stayed in touch. It was nostalgic seeing an old family friend after years, and he was happy to see me all grown up. In-between then and a few days ago we had been talking consistently and he became extremely infatuated by me. He called me weekly and visited me on his trips to my city. We’d hold hands and kiss in public. When I visited his city, he honestly told me he lied about being in an open relationship and that he didn’t know why. I took it lightly and chose to forget about that because he treated me so well and we had this undeniable connection. We briefly talked about being together and that it wasn’t fair to you so I thought he was going to tell you how he felt. I didn’t want to be with him or let myself fall in love yet until I knew if he made a decisive decision. I thought he would tell you but he never did. I was misled.

We barely talked about you but the last time I saw him I wanted to know how things were going. He said you guys had a very happy and healthy relationship. I didn’t understand why he would still sleep with me when everything was going well with you and his job. He said I was an “anomaly” — whatever that really means. He was so good at juggling me and you, and so genuine and caring. I tried to cut ties several times but he kept chasing after me and putting in a lot of effort, even though I lived on the other side of the country. I thought it was because he really wanted to be with me. I didn’t feel special being the “mistress,” so I eventually told him I didn’t want to continue any type of contact. That was recently.

I don’t even know you but I’m deeply sorry for all of these things you have no idea about. I hope you guys continue to have a happy and healthy relationship.

Sincerely,

The Other Girl