Are You The Perfect Victim?
The perfect victim is polite and friendly with everyone. They have never met a stranger.
The perfect victim believes that all people are naturally good-hearted because they themselves are good-hearted.
The perfect victim believes that if you are kind to others, they will be kind to you in return.
The perfect victim is more concerned with other people’s perceptions of them rather than their own perceptions of themselves. They worry that strangers may not see them as “nice” or “good” and are fearful of the potential of anyone thinking poorly of them.
The perfect victim avoids being honest about their feelings because they don’t want to hurt anyone else’s feelings. They don’t realize that their non-committal kindness is often read as interest by others.
The perfect victim will go along to get along because they don’t want others to be uncomfortable or unhappy.
The perfect victim can be easily manipulated by their appealing to their kinder nature. They don’t realize that charm can be used for malevolent and selfish purposes just as often as it is for benevolent ones.
The perfect victim’s actions always match their words but they don’t understand that there are many people who will exaggerate, lie, or hide the truth to get what they want and feel absolutely no guilt about doing so.
The perfect victim believes that the bad things that happen in the world always happen to someone else, someplace else. They don’t believe that evil will ever touch them where they live.
The perfect victim is unprepared for the fact that things will go wrong in life and that they could be possibly be stranded alone without help. They incorrectly believe that the world is full of good Samaritans ready at a moment’s notice to help them.
The perfect victim fails to make contingency plans for those circumstances when they may need to rely on their own power to flee from a bad situation.
The perfect victim trusts that everyone will treat them with the utmost care, consideration, and caution. They expect to be treated respectfully in every circumstance, whether it’s warranted or not.
The perfect victim believes that it is always someone else’s responsibility to confront and swiftly deal with the people who trouble, harass, or abuse them.
The perfect victim regularly takes a passive stance even about issues that are extremely important to them including their own safety and security.
The perfect victim will always assume that personal safety is someone else’s job and will never proactively protect themselves from harm because they believe that they shouldn’t have to. They incorrectly believe that the police and justice system are proactive instead of reactive.
The perfect victim is waiting for the world to change so that they will be safer and more comfortable. They don’t realize that the only person in the world that they can control or change is themselves.
