Emotional vampires

I’ve learned a lot in the past ten years. I’ve learned that introspection is the key to achieving emotional maturity. I’ve learned that there are times when silence is the best tactic and there are times when raging is the only way to be heard. I’ve learned that the best way to handle a narcissist is to emotionally detach from the drama they create.

Nothing is ever a result of their own decisions or actions.

When they start to lose control of the situation, the manipulation, threats, tears, anger and pleas for sympathy come out, in no particular order. They try every tactic, every emotion until they get the result they’re after.

If they don’t get it? They start looking elsewhere for that sympathy. They play the victim and lie to make themselves look better until someone takes the bait and believes them, fights for them, saves them.

It makes me sad, how much experience I have with people like this. How long I’ve had to deal with this personality, these mind games, this fight. It’s exhausting, constantly feeling like you have to defend and explain yourself, even knowing it doesn’t really matter.

Personally, I’m tired of these people telling lies about me. I’m tired of doing the right thing, being the right kind of person, staying positive, only to be faced with all of their negativity and vindictiveness.

Some day, these people will be a distant nuisance in my life instead of the front runners. I’m looking forward to that day.