There is a likely chance that when you look at both the title, and main photo for this article, you’ll feel that they match up quite well. Afterall, we have probably all had times in our lives, where we were quite involved in “venting” in one way or another. It seems as if, it’s just one of them things. A normal part of our lives; right? It’s just okay to blow our tops once in a while.
Venting is considered to be something that we do, as a way to create a process in which we can dump all of our stress and anxiety out of our bodies, leaving ourselves fresh and ready to face the world again. With all its many stressors.
Venting has no set standard for exactly how to be done. People might scream and yell. Others may get a good strong cry going. Some may do more negative things like punch or kick a gigantic hole into a wall. While others find more self therapeutic ways to vent; for instance, I believe that my writing is my way of venting out the many stressors that I feel I deal with.
So is that all? Is venting nothing more then a technique for managing negativity, stress, anxiety or what have you?
I recently spit out a term during a random discussion I was having. That term was “positive venting.” I had ended up coming up with it, out of the blue when I was taking part of a lengthy conversation amongst 4 or 5 people. It had seemed as if we were supposed to be discussing things along the lines of an organized curriculum, but we get off topic, and while we weren’t yelling or screaming, it still somewhat felt like we were venting, in a whole new, somewhat peaceful way.
Once it was realized, I made another statement along the lines of, “it’s okay, this conversation may seem like it got off the beaten path, but it’s all good because we’re at least doing positive venting.”
People cracked smiles, and asked me what I meant by that term. Afterall, when most of us think of venting, we may look at the end result as positive, however the act itself, seems not so positive. When I first think of venting, I often think of screaming, smoke coming out of our ears, and faces turning red, with an extremely, enormously high blood pressure.
Does venting always have to represent what we as a society have made it to? That term came up in the middle of a conversation that was flowing nice, with a positive type of vibe. We had been somewhat reminiscing about all the tough things that we had lived through and experienced. Along with what extremely important lessons we were left with, along the way. Sharing our stories of overcoming addiction, and erratic mental health.
In a way, it could had been considered venting; but in a whole new fashion. We realized that venting could be done in more ways than we ever had thought.
We don’t have to be high strung with volatile stress in order to talk about our days of old. We should try to intertwine our experiences and lessons into peaceful discussions.
Venting is important. I just want my message here today to be one that reminds us that venting can be much more versatile than the usual stereotypical kind that we always seem to portray it as in our minds.
Like I mentioned at the beginning, one of the most self therapeutic things I am involved with is my writing. There are other types of venting which lay no strain on our bodies as we are doing it. We may use exercise as a way to do it. Many of us have also tried art, more specifically, art therapy. There is also playing a musical instrument, or singing.
Don’t allow venting to remain so single dimensioned. It is one of the most extremely important acts we will do throughout our lives. However, it can be very unhealthy, and detrimental to us, if we allow it to lash out in the wrong way.
Michael Patanella is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist and Recovering Addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and many other motivational topics. His articles, memoirs and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Helping others out there still struggling.