I’m Struggling to Find Happiness And That’s Okay!

For those struggling to find happiness- A message to you.

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They say instead of drinking it, smoking it, scrolling it away, or dating it away, sit with it because a big part of healing happens by feeling and facing your problems. So sit with them. Or write them down which is what I do.

This is something a lot of people face. At least I know I have! And from what I have learned, you change your scenery, the people you surround yourself with, what you do, and anything you can think of, but the results are only temporary. You still feel like being back to square one after some time has passed. It gets confusing and disappointing, it also leaves you feeling hopeless at times.
To be honest with you, happiness is complicated however, the answer is somewhat “simple”. No matter what you change on the outside, nothing will ever change if the inside stays the same. Your life could be the best, or at least seem like it, but you still feel unhappy. A level of unhappiness is normal and expected but that’s not always the case.

Ask yourself what generally makes you happy and what currently doesn’t make you happy. If the answers are obvious then you can start from there to make the necessary changes and find happiness again. But if they aren’t, you may want to look into it deeper.

Taking into consideration that happiness is only a temporary emotion that comes with positive incidents in our lives, it’s fair to say that happiness as a general life attitude is harder to achieve.

Whether you want to achieve general happiness in your life or adopt a happier attitude (or both) it’s always important to start with yourself.
It’s essential to keep in mind that struggling with happiness sometimes is associated with mental health problems (such as depression and anxiety) which when you manage to understand and work on, you’ll find the appropriate steps to improve your own happiness.

As I recently read in the well-known book “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F*ck” by Mark Manson, we are so obsessed with the idea of being constantly happy and we frantically try to get rid of our “negative” emotions that we end up feeling even unhappier or unmotivated or anxious (and so on) after. They named it…