Get Rid of the Bad Ruler
An analogy to the unwanted belief that causes suffering.
A ruler of the kingdom determines how the kingdom will run and whether the majority of the people within it will be happy or not. If the ruler is good then the kingdom flourishes while if he is bad the people in the kingdom suffer.
The king is analogous to the core belief that a person has in his subconscious mind. There are several core beliefs in a person’s mind and they correspond to the various other kings that exist on the planet earth who govern their respective kingdoms. For the time being let’s concentrate on one core belief i.e. one king and the psychological mechanisms that exist because of it that is analogous to the kingdom.
How is the King Appointed?
Traditionally kings were appointed based on their lineage. The son of the king will eventually become the king. There was not much emphasis given to the merit of the person. This is analogous to the formulation of the core belief that is based on social programming. If the society is free then most probably the core belief that will be formed in a person’s mind shall also be good and if the society is repressive then there is a lot of possibility of the formulation of the unwanted core belief that will create havoc in the person’s life in the future.
With time the kings have been replaced by Prime Ministers and Presidents and they are appointed based on merit rather than lineage. This is analogous to a careful examination by the person himself in determining the core belief that he will have. The core belief that is formulated in this manner has a high probability of creating a better life for the individual.
Example: Ram grew up in a conservative society where interest in the opposite sex was looked down upon. This societal programming led to the creation of the core belief in Ram that sexual desire outside the purview of marriage is bad. This core belief is like the appointment of the king based on lineage (societal programming) and is bad for the whole kingdom (life of Ram).
Formulation of this core belief led Ram to have feelings of guilt and shame for having sexual thoughts when he looked at other women and his confidence lowered.
Shyam on the other hand did not go with the societal programming. He analyzed the societal functioning, believed in science that said that marriage is a recent construct and there is nothing sacred about it, etc. Based on his analysis he formulated his core belief that sexual feelings outside of marriage are normal and that he should be proud of them. Though the stability that marriage provides to society can’t be undermined so probably getting physically involved may jeopardize the stability but there shouldn’t be any guilt for just having amorous feelings. This creation of core belief is like appointing a king based on merit and rigorous selection process and there is a lot of chance that the kingdom shall flourish under him.
Why People Don’t Get Rid of Bad Kings?
Even a kingdom run by an autocratic bad ruler can have some positive sides to it. Maybe the military is strong within that kingdom that helps in thwarting outside attacks or there are a lot of peasants who do the menial task so that the rest of the population can live a life of luxury (positive only for people living a life of luxury).
One can somehow try to find the positives in a suppressive kingdom and hence decide not to topple the ruler but the more he allows the ruler to stay in his position the more havoc the kingdom has to bear.
Example: Ram’s core belief that sexual feelings outside of marriage are a sin may have some positives for Ram. He may have a feeling of being pious and take up the position of being a religious leader. These so-called positives cannot last long and his guilt and shame for having sexual thoughts arising out of his core belief would wreak havoc in his life.
How to Get Rid of Bad Kings?
In order to get rid of a bad king, one has to look beyond the temporary benefits that he provides to the kingdom. Once the bad king is toppled then a careful examination needs to be done so that the next king is appointed based on merit and that he will take the kingdom to new heights.
Similarly, one needs to look beyond the temporary benefits that a particular bad core belief provides to an individual. Through catharsis, the resistance to changing the king (old core belief) needs to be fought, and eventually, the old ruler needs to be replaced with a better one (new core belief) who can help create a life of confidence and love for the individual.
Example: Ram needs to look beyond the temporary benefits that his core belief that sexual feelings are acceptable only within spouses. After that, he needs to apply the process of catharsis to remove the emotional charge associated with the core belief and then replace it with a better belief that sexual feelings are normal and need not be restricted within the purview of marriage. There should not be any guilt for just having sexual feelings. It’s just that thinking logically does not make enough sense to get involved physically with the other person and ruin the marriage. This replacement of the old core belief with the new one would help Ram create a life where he is guilt-free and has high confidence.
The king determines whether the kingdom shall flourish or people within it have to suffer. The appointment of the king should be done carefully based on merit and not just based on lineage (social programming). Even if a kingdom somehow has a bad ruler, effort should be made to look beyond the few positives that he may have and take the decisive step of fighting with his forces and topple him. As the next step effort should be made to appoint a new ruler based on merit and careful examination so that the kingdom eventually gets rid of its negativities and treads on the path of glory.