The Act Of The Block.
Life. Full of the unexpected. It keeps you alive, no matter how fortunate or unfortunate the situations might be.
Life finds a way of keeping you on your toes, ready to tip you over at the slightest gust.
I’m a firm believer in cutting out the negative in life. Whether it be bad habits or negative people currently in your life. I understand that certain people in your life will always be there no matter how detrimental they can be to your well being. I know a lot of people wouldn’t abandon any family members no matter how far off the beaten path they’ve gone, or how much they’ve hurt them. I’m still a firm believer in cutting negative people out of your life. Friend or family. At least for a time.
“They say blood is thicker than water, but you can still drown in both.”
Going with the thoughts that I believe you should cut out the negative. I also am a firm believer in cutting yourself out of people's lives that you’ve effected in a negative way. At least from that they’ve told you. After so long of someone telling you “You are bringing me down!” — I don’t see the problem with being the bigger person and letting this person know that if you’re such a negative influence on that one’s life, then you’re going to take yourself out of their life so that they can flourish.
Doesn’t sound fair? Maybe too cut and dry? Too cold? That’s the thing. This idea isn’t at all.
“Life is far too short to have negative people influencing the temple that is your body, mind, & soul.”
This goes both ways. If someone is constantly telling you that you make them miserable. Well, it’s time to move on.
Moving on is easier said than done. Living in the Tech/ Social Media age that we are in, the amount of ways to get in contact with someone has never been easier. The price of technological advancement I suppose. That being said, basically all of our devices and accounts we have with these social media giants allows us to block people.
Blocking people might seem like a rather extreme thing to do. Maybe even considered childish to some. But after too much negativity with one individual, I think blocking them is probably a positive. That way people can move forward and not have to keep their negative experiences going because of the love they share with this person.
I know blocking is used in cases where it isn’t warranted. I also understand it’s probably used against people that should never be blocked. That’s up to the blocker to understand if this person negatively affecting their life has earned that status.
The problem that comes from blocking someone, is that sometimes this blocked goes out of their way to “creep” on the social media accounts of the person doing the blocking. They’ll make fake accounts, do searches on google, whatever to get a taste of what’s going on with this person's life. Hell, even their friends seem to can’t wait to show them the latest of the blockers life.
The problem with “creeping” is that it doesn’t respect that person's privacy. It doesn’t respect that person's decision to move on with their lives. It doesn’t respect this person using the tools at their disposal to try and heal themselves and move forward with their lives.
This is something that I think needs to be respected 100% of the time. I see the act of blocking someone being disrespected by the blocked entirely too frequently. This is a call to arms.
Respect the border put up by that person.
To the Blocked;
If and when the blocker is ready, they’ll reach out to you. Don’t reach out to people in the blockers life with your problems with what they’ve said or what they’re currently doing. Don’t waste your time “creeping” on this person. Take this action as a time to heal, self reflect, and move forward with your life as well.
Respect the space. In the end you’ll feel better about it.
To the Blockers;
Block the negative people in your life fully or don’t do it at all. Email, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, and their phone number. Either give them a full measure of this action, or none at all.
