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The Best Advice You’ll Ever Receive is No Advice At All.
Advice is not the answer.
Living our lives based on other people’s advice. We have all been there. Struggling with something or feeling unsure about a situation and asking for advice. Feeling the need for someone to guide us when we can’t guide ourselves.
It’s normal and it’s okay to ask for advice as sometimes it can be very helpful and valuable. But how can we be so sure that the other person has life figured out or their advice can 100% be applied to our situation? We can’t be sure. Whoever we ask for advice usually doesn't know every aspect of our situation and oftentimes this advice ends up being just a bunch of words we’ll forget as soon as we think of our situation again.
Just like Ricky Gervais once said, “The best advice I’ve ever received is.. No one else knows what they are doing either”. And It's true. Sometimes the best advice is no advice at all. It usually offends us when we see someone who seems to have figured out their life more than we do. Or when they pretend to understand our lives more than we do. We can always ask for advice from a friend, family, co-worker, or pretty much anyone, and most won’t hesitate to tell us what our relationship should look like, how we should be spending our time and with who, what we should be eating, how we should be acting, etc. Now, usually, these pieces of advice don't come from a place of hatred but from a place of care and love. But the thing is that advice is usually not the answer.
I recently read that there are 2 types of advice.
The first kind comes from someone you trust. Someone whose intentions about you are pure and who has more knowledge and experience on the topic you are seeking help for.
The second kind comes from people who don't know you well enough or who don't have sufficient details about your situation and they give you unsolicited advice. They tell you things you already know and it can be frustrating in times of need. In that case, we need to be careful who we trust and be very selective of the people we seek help and advice from! Keep in mind that unsolicited advice usually doesn't work.
But why do people tend to give advice even though they don't know or they don't care to know the whole back story? Well, we live in a time where people feel the need to come across as the…
