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The Core Beliefs That Drive Us

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Our most centralized ideas that work as the built in camera for our minds are often referred to core beliefs. They are the factors in which all our beliefs are processed, whether it’s beliefs about ourselves, other people, and much of everything in the world around us. It’s the way every single experience is seen and analyzed. These beliefs can vary from slightly, to greatly with each and every person. A dozen people might look at the same exact thing, but yet there may be a dozen different beliefs that are summarized about the same thing. Each of us think, feel, and behave in very different ways.

It’s the reason behind why everyone is different, and each their own. We believe what we believe based on our upbringing, through experiences, and even all the different and diverse people that we have in our own lives.

It can go deeper than that please. I can use my own life experiences, and show many interesting lessons, which have taught me to be the person that I am today. Unfortunately, it isn’t always healthy thinking for me, and my beliefs about everything, especially about me, can sometimes suffer. It can go on for a long time too, because sometimes we don’t learn the truth until a certain kind of experience hits us. Let’s take a closer look at what I’m talking about.

I often revert to my past life of struggles, when it comes to my mental health, and my addictions. It presents the perfect setting for the examples that I can give.

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I have a history of mental health diseases, and addiction. Both encompass a world of different core beliefs. Every kind of one. The core beliefs of mine, that I had before my years of struggle are the foundation behind the struggle. The beliefs I’ve adopted after the struggle, in my years of sobriety and recovery are too, parts of the entire process.

Those equations likely add to the reasons that finding that recovery was not an easy task for me. It was anything but easy, probably the most difficult process that I have ever overcome.

Looking at the early stages of my tough times, It is easy to see the problem areas with my core beliefs. What was impossible to see and be aware of back then, has turned into a much simpler equation now that I am out of that negative and dark world.

An outsider looking in.

When I first started experimenting with hard drugs, I had that first reason that most people give. I do it to get high, I liked the way it feels, it made me friendlier, or more personable, etc etc. But it runs deeper than that.

Those generic reasons all make sense to me. However it ran into more ideas of why I enjoyed getting outside of myself. I was trying to numb certain negative beliefs about the way I felt about who I was.

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Core beliefs back then made me think that I wasn’t quite good enough. Trying to change who I was because of self loathing type of issues. As well as beliefs that the real me wasn’t good enough for the people around me. I may had said it made me more personable, but in real life, I believed that I didn’t fit in. It didn’t matter that I really did fit in with friends and loved ones in all reality. But it was my core beliefs that were stronger. The beliefs told me that I wasn’t quite right as me.

The process of going through that pain, and finding a life of sobriety was one that taught me to challenge my belief systems. If I didn’t learn to do that challenging, than I would never succeed in getting out of that unhealthy world.

The education that I found when I sought to curb my terrible addiction, and get my depression under control, was something I could have never found in any school anywhere in the world.

Core beliefs were never a conscious thought in my mind at any time. I never heard of anything called acceptance, or awareness, or mindfulness, or anything close to that.

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When I found those lessons, and adopted them into my life, I was able to see the core beliefs that were holding me down, and I was able to begin the process that eventually lead to me accepting myself for who I was. I would not move forward, until I was able to adopt that acceptance into my everyday beliefs.

When I was able to take a look at myself from the outside, I saw that I had issues with love, and I was not happy with me, and my life. It was the skill of mindfulness, which offered me a new look at myself. I learned that I was good enough. I didn’t need to go outside of myself to be a fun person.

I learned that I could be comfortable whether I was with a group of friends, or all alone on any given day. Learning about comfort in my own skin was a wonderful lesson. I learned to live with the new core belief that I am comfortable in that skin.

I no longer had to be anybody but myself.

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So once I got detoxed off drugs, went to therapy, and stabilized on proper medications, that journey of finding new, and true core beliefs was part of the very best, and most healthy of equations. I kept some older beliefs because not everyone I had was wrong or bad.

Moving forward on this road, allows me to utilize the beliefs correctly, and it leaves my mind open for learning new ones as my life goes on. Remaining clear of life altering things like drugs and negative behaviours.

We have to look at ourselves in the mirror in order to see just what our core beliefs are. For me, it has been a lesson of learning that don’t have to be stuck with the wrong core beliefs, and there is always room for me to explore new potentials for what I believe in. It’s a something that will educate me, for the rest of my life.

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Michael Patanella

Michael Patanella

Author, Publisher, and Editor. I cover mindfulness, mental health, addiction, sobriety, life, and spirituality among other things. MichaelPatanella.medium.com