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The Reality Of Radical Acceptance

This has been a topic I have covered before. As I learn more and more about Radical Acceptance, the more I see what it really is about. As I have done more research, I am able to see that I myself am using it a lot in my own life, without even knowing. It revolves around something that I often stress to be very important. And that is focus point is acceptance.

While acceptance often shows itself as a great tool, it actually can harness much more strength when we take it from tool, to trait. Acceptance can be a difficult thing to master.

Often times, some of the strongest pains in our lives seem to be connected to inabilities to accept those tougher lessons throughout our lives. Reality can be quite difficult in all its journeys. It can be the most difficult thing to process and accept.

The more in which we battle reality, the much more difficult acceptance can be. When we fight reality, we are really in a fight against ourselves. Letting go, or accepting reality is a solid method, to ease suffering. Whether emotional, mental, or physical pain.

The refusal to face, or accept value can be a difficult state to be in. It puts together this portrayal of a battle that seems to repeat every single day. Becoming a spinning tornado style event, and we really can get very stuck when day after day, nothing changes.

A radical acceptance can be a good escape out of that erratic circle that imprisons us within our own minds. This involves accepting the reality around us for whatever it is.

Working to find an understanding and mindset that tells us that we can’t change anything that we don’t have control over. A process that teaches us that we can only change things that are reasonably within our grasp. Most importantly, we are also taught that it’s ok that we cannot change the entire world.

Many teachers and experts will tell us that we have to stop fighting reality. Letting go of the things we cannot change is a good philosophy for literally granting us back our sanity over feeling out of control. When we fight what we can’t control, we remain stuck in place, and it isn’t just our bodies that stay stuck. Usually, our emotions, and our brains remain just as stuck in place as our bodies may seem.

Acceptance is a process from very deep within us. It can be the representation of great strength. A strength that has succeeded in finding balance that can be what holds us together. Being the difference maker between stability and contentment, and insanity and unhappiness.

This can help us get to a place where the longstanding pain and suffering can also finally be let go. We no longer are at a place where a person must experience strong pain and suffering. There’s nothing written in any handbook of life that says everyone deserves intense pain.

Even when that very strong negativity still must be present, we can still get to a place of acceptance, where it can be brought down to levels that are better set for healthy human handling. It’s that type of pain, that the experts believe is more at the level, for where events and things, are just part of our lives. These are the struggles that we are better suited to process.

There’s many ways we can say all of this. But in the end, it’s a process that doesn’t throw complexity around. Mastering that acceptance practice, can be the factor, which gets to chopping down stress and anxiety. These things also represent the unknown. The unknown can seem quite intimidating. We can move past a place where we are self conscious of the way we might look or seem. Acceptance works with that too.

Accept the things you cannot change. And have the strength to change, what we’re able to change.

Michael Patanella

is a Trenton, New Jersey Author, Publisher, Columnist, Editor, Advocate, and recovering addict, covering topics of mental health, addiction, sobriety, mindfulness, self-help, faith, spirituality, Smart Recovery, social advocacy, and countless other nonfiction topics. His articles, publications, memoirs, and stories are geared towards being a voice for the voiceless. Hoping to reach others still struggling.



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