Why Learning Emotional Control Is So Important
The Key to Masculinity
“Emotional Control”, how many times have you heard those words in your life. No seriously how many times? My guess is probably not a lot if you’re the average person. Well the deal is that it’s kind of important when it comes to having a stable/good level of mental health.
What Emotional Control Isn’t
Well, I’m glad you were wondering. Emotional control is one of the key traits required in a masculine man. I would say it is a far more important trait for men as it is women as although women may benefit from being able to control their emotions, it is far less necessary in their case. The reason for this being is that inherent feminine traits consist of being more sporadic with their emotions and feelings, rather approaching situations with what makes sense emotionally over logically. To Clarify emotional control is also not just simply suppressing your emotions because that can lead to aspects of your life becoming worse. No, what it is is knowing when to show certain emotions. A masculine knows when to be strong for his family, when to be vulnerable, when to be angry and invoke respect, or when to be the calm presence the surrounding people need. Someone with emotional control will know how to approach a certain situation with the awareness of how their reaction will contribute to said situation. Why don’t you read that again. Someone with emotional control will know how to approach a certain situation with the awareness of how their reaction will contribute to said situation. This will naturally lead them to a positive outcome or negative one. That is why you see so many great leaders in military positions that don’t lose morale in the darkest of times even though they are feeling beat down and without hope. The commander thinks of the soldiers in his team. If he, the commanding officer, can’t seem to have hope, and he’s at the top of the informational tract, well then why should his subordinates. If he is a strong leader he will know when to release his emotions in private or despair in his own time if you will, but for his team, for his friends, he must remain strong, and be a beacon of hope.
Now what if you aren’t a general in the army or super ultra important leader, well how can emotional control help you. These are some of the benefits which I believe will aid you greatly in life.
Benefits
Now one thing it definitely helps with is being able to clearly focus on whatever is happening presently. An example would be if you something angers you greatly, being able to take a step back and assess the situation would be far more useful to you and even elevate the amount of respect a person who witnesses such a situation has for you. I mean come on, who would you be more likely to respect? Someone who completely lashes out and has a tantrum when things don’t go their way, or the person who keeps it calm and takes an amount of time to assert their position. Having emotional control helps you with being present or more in the moment so that you do not have to have the intrusive thoughts of either anxieties or similar things such as overthinking and the likes which ultimately have a negative impact on your overall life experience. Nowadays with all our time and lifeforce invested in instant dopamine hits and social media that constantly has our brains switching from one thing to the next in a span of two to five seconds, being present is actually quite difficult to do. If you don’t believe me then try spend a solid 15 to 20 or so minutes just thinking about a specific thing in your life without getting distracted. If you’ve been spending a large amount of your time on social media for a few months or even years you will likely find this very difficult. Heck most people can’t even sit down and read a book for minimum thirty minutes, and you might be saying “oh oh but I just don’t like reading blah blah blah ahaha…” You and me both know that it is just your brain trying to cope with the dig at your self esteem. Even if you try justify that you don’t like reading books you just aren’t reading the right books ;)
Anyways, (that was a bit of a rant) I’m sure by now that you can see how being present with the use of emotional control can help you with many issues in your life or just make previous issues become less daunting for you and those that surround you.
Thank you for taking the time to read this article, I hope that it has been somewhat helpful and as always, stay safe and stay humble.
Cheers.
