… WHEN IT SEEMS NOT TO BE WORKING
Sometimes everything around us seems not to be working. People see you and tell you how wonderful you are ,how smart you are, how hardworking you are but when you checkout yourself, you begin to question yourself if what people they have said was truly about you.
But you don’t know what the problem is.
Most of the time, the problem is YOU. Are you surprised that I said that?
No matter what your friends, family, colleagues say to you (either positive or negative), it is what you tell yourself that your mind builds on. Let me tell you about a boy called John. John was a calm boy who takes his time to do it tasks at home and his parents saw that as been “dull”. Whenever he made any little mistake, they called him negative names (such as fool,dullard,etc). He carried that mindset that he was dull and it affected his performance. During his first year in the university, he had a reading mate who they read and practiced past questions together. But when their first semester’s result came out, his reading mate did better than him. His friend noticed and asked him what the problem was, he replied and said “I am just not smart and even my parents know that”. That statement has been the foundation his mind was built on. His friend spoke to him, and also encouraged him to read books and that was how he got transformed. Some people fail exams even before they get to the examination venue just because they feed their mind of their past failures which makes them give up before they get to the examination venue. (I will talk about how to study as a student in another article). Just like pouring water into a bowl that is covered (the water just gets wasted).
The question now is what is the way out?
Start believing in yourself and speak positive stuffs to yourself. Surround yourself with positive-minded people.
Life can only toss you up and down when you don’t have a defined goal for your life. Ask yourself this question: “what is the motivation behind the life you live on a daily basics?”
Is it the Big Picture you have about yourself? Or you live based on what life presents to you? Most people have perfect life goals but they have no good motivation to keep them alive. Do you have long and short term goals for your life?, write is down and entrust it to God,then ensure you live your life in other to achieve them. The journey can never be smooth. People give up easily when they meet challenges because they didn’t bring the necessary tools for handling challenges during their life journey. Just like starting a business when you know you are not a risk-taker or a fisherman who can’t swim.
Understand the challenges and risks that comes with your defined goals. It will help you prepare ahead of unforeseen situations that can occur in the cause of you living your life. Read books, speak with people who have walked along similar path as your, attend seminars. You don’t have to make the same mistake people ahead of you have made. The only way a body builder can build more muscles is by lifting heavier weight. Growth requires challenges. You may encounter challenges but please never give up. Nothing is impossible with God. Always trust Him.
Evaluate yourself frequently so that you can know how much progress you are making.
Let me end with what Joyce Meyer said in one of her books called “Seize the Day” which says:
Nothing in the world can take the place of determination and persistence. Determination helps you practice good habits until they become a natural part of your life.
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