How Addiction Can Impact a Family

The Fallout of growing up with alcohol.

Sally Gallagher
Nov 20, 2019 · 3 min read

The Story

The comment takes me by surprise but hits home, although it is not intended to do so. My sister immigrated to the land of our father’s birth a few years ago in a surprise move. She keeps in contact with Joe, a cousin who is the caregiver of our aunt, who passed the 100 milestones.

“Oh, she and I don’t correspond,” I respond weakly.

“The manual is pretty thick,” he replies, unfazed. “ Driving on the oppositive side of the road sounds difficult.”

“I’m sure she will manage.” My brother and I lock eyes, and he shakes his head.

Introduction

The Beginning of the End

We should have seen the preliminary warnings when our mother needed medical intervention, and she fought against the three of us when we moved mom to a nursing facility. Being the oldest, she somehow felt entitled her to a more significant share of votes in the process, and she lobbied for home care, which would have been feasible except for the fact that home care was more costly.

Our Family of Origin

Children of Alcoholics

Young Adulthood

Alcoholism

Thoughts

Choices

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Sally Gallagher

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Teacher, writer, animal lover; curious about the world, passionate about the people I love.

inkMend

inkMend

inkMend is a writer’s safe space on Medium to express experience with pain and write to heal from trauma. Inspired fiction, poetry, and non-fiction/memoir welcome.

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