Why Do People Wait For The ‘Perfect Moment’

Hint: There’s no “Perfect Moment.”

You’ve encountered this. You may have even experienced this yourself. There’s this kind of moment where you pause and you just wait for the world to be in your favour before you move. This situation usually happens when you have something big in front of you: a dream, a breakthrough, a longing.

“I wanted to help people without a voice,” this guy said who is 5 months away from his BA in Psychology.

“Then, I’m off to taking my master’s and PhD,” he added.

He probably meant he would like to be able to help people professionally, but there is still a limitation in his statements. He was waiting for something to happen before he does “his part.”

The popular success coach, Darren Hardy, told this guy that “people are everywhere thus you can help them anytime, all the time.”

You do not have to wait to have your BA in Psychology. Everyone you meet every day has a problem that needs attention, affection, encouragement and support. This includes not only customers but your fellow peers, friends, neighbours and the people you line up with at the grocery store. You could be “practising” your profession before you obtain a degree. Do not wait to start living your passion.

The main point he is telling here is you do not need validation from people or from the world to start. You can begin your journey in a couple of small steps. What’s interesting is, successful people mostly say that it’s the discipline to follow through the small, daily tasks that eventually led them to their big goal.

The key here is you need to start. There are so many personal roadblocks a person can encounter when they hit this stage; it could be fear of failure or even fear of success.

Fear is like an addiction. At first, you taste it. The thought comes right through your head. It probably feels like a whisper. Then, when you pay some attention to it and your being will start telling you it’s comfortable with fear. When you entertain fear, you do not really have to dwell with your responsibilities. You can just lay back, think and wait for the world to send you a pass or fail card.

Fear is very powerful if you give attention to it. When you let it drive you, it will not only give you a moment to pause but it will also give you endless possibilities that will not really happen. It’s all made up.

• “What if you fail and your family and friends laugh at you?”
• “What if you give out the wrong advice and your reputation as a psychologist is tarnished forever?”
• “What if after all these years of hard work, it will all be for nothing and you discover you are just not enough?”

One good way to get out of fear is action. But, before you can really step out of that zone, you need courage. Courage does not mean you have to face the mountains and calm the storm. You just need that one second to decide to stand up. You need that one second to sit in front of your laptop and start with a word. You need that one courageous step to get started — however small the step is.

Once you get started, you discover how powerful you really are. One by one, the thoughts of fear slowly disappears. You get engrossed by what you are doing that all of those anxious thoughts begin to fade. Then, you gain confidence.

Confidence is the next step you need to take once you have gotten started. With confidence, you know that all of those anxious thoughts do not matter. You begin to realize that this dream is not really impossible.

• “If I do help one child a year and monitor his progress, I would be able to keep my purpose afloat and actually help people.”
• “If I work on 1000 words in a day, I would be able to get my novel in progress and complete it in 2 years.”
• “If I just continue working 3 hours part-time every night of the week, I would be able to sustain myself throughout college.”

This time, helping people will not only be a fictitious thought in your head. It will no longer stay as that ideal vision of yourself. Your thoughts shift. You begin to think of solutions instead of all the dead-end possibilities that are not really true.

Eventually, you become the ideal person you had in your mind.

You don’t have to wait for the world to be perfect before you move. You can get started with an imperfect situation so you can see that perfect world come to life.

With that, I leave you this quote from The Notes From The Universe:

Funny, most folks ‘there’ are waiting for a sign of sorts from folks ‘here,’ before they make a move, take action, or commit. Same ‘here.’