She’s Your Wife, Not Your Mom
It’s not cute when men act like boys
Have you ever heard a man say of his wife, “Oh, she’s really just another one of my kids.”?
Of course, you haven’t, but that’s a common sentiment expressed by women. “My husband is really just my third kid.” It’s often said good-naturedly as if it were an inevitable fact that is not ideal, but about which nothing can be done. I’ve even heard men say this about themselves as if it were a cute characteristic and a kind of self-deprecating thing to say. It’s not self-deprecating and it’s not cute. It’s admitting that you don’t want to grow up and that you think it’s fine for the woman you sleep with to take care of you the way your mom did.
I am married to a man, not a child. I have a son and several pets and I do not want to be anyone else’s mommy, particularly not if I’m going to share a bed with him. My husband has never really asked me to relate to him in that way — thank goodness. I probably wouldn’t have married him in the first place if he had.
But what of the guys who think nothing of asking questions like these?
“Hey, hon — what’s that restaurant I like?”
“Where are my socks?”
“When are we going on vacation?”
