Confessions of a Married Man: The truth is that “ambiguity” is completely avoidable! I’ve found a way to keep myself from cheating on my wife.
The ambiguity is all about finding your opportunities, and cheating is not something you can’t control, it’s just an excuse.
If you break it off at the source, how can it get to the point where you can’t control it?
Many people cover up their ambiguities with friendship and courtesy, but they are expecting something to develop.
A truly responsible person will avoid the possibility of ambiguity, and even if feelings do develop, they will be quickly suppressed.
Some too many people don’t have a sense of boundaries nowadays, and that’s why people don’t feel safe with their partners. Sometimes it’s because they don’t know how to maintain boundaries themselves, and that’s why they need to learn how to do it.
How do we do this? Here are a few suggestions.
You can’t love one person for a lifetime.
There are so many people in the world, and the one who will make your heart flutter will never be the only one around you.
So it’s normal to be tempted, but whether or not you can restrain yourself is a matter of morality and wisdom.
Not to leave the spouse should not be helpless or responsible, so your relationship is also too sad.
A lot of people give up the outside world for the sake of marriage because they can’t afford the consequences, but they are still upset about it.
That’s not the best way to be. The best way to be is to not like the new person.
The best state is not to suppress it, but to let yourself do it naturally. You can use the following methods to avoid falling in love with a new person, which apply to both men and women.
1. Reduce unnecessary acquaintances and contacts
Often derailment is to find opportunities, in the work of recognizing each other, does not mean that we have to become acquainted with him or meet in private.
But a lot of people will work to do this thing, after work, but also chat for a few hours, said to maintaining customer relations is like to chat with the opposite sex.
The contact is not necessary, it becomes the beginning of the ambiguity, and may eventually lead to love.
Or, if you happen to know someone you get along with, you’ll be able to leave your contact information with each other, and even if the other person doesn’t want to, you’ll still be trying to find her.
This is a very deliberate attempt to increase the chances of contact.
They will lie to themselves that they are just friends and nothing more, but in the end, the situation gets out of hand.
That’s why many married men refuse to leave the chat accounts of actresses in the same movie, and that’s exactly what they’re doing.
They don’t even look at them after the movie, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them, they don’t look at them.
This is not a lack of adaptability or thinking too much is very necessary, actresses are all so beautiful, and each knows a little, not in the test themselves.
2. Don’t chat about personal matters
If you have to contact them for official business, then don’t talk about personal matters.
Even if it’s just a small matter of life, it’s a kind of sharing, and if you talk about your heart, it’s easier to go into the other person’s heart or let him go into your heart.
Even develop the same habits as the other party,
this look in the eyes of the spouse how embarrassing?
Unless you are sure that they are just friends, and your spouse doesn’t care.
3. Refuse to meet the opposite sex of the bureau
You’re married, but your best friend or brother may be unmarried,
and they may have made a date for a social gathering that requires you to make up the numbers.
Or they have a birthday party with a lot of nice people, don’t go.
Can you go and not interact with them at all? It’s not polite, but if you do, you might be tempted to go, so why don’t you just stay home with your wife and kids?
Once Tian Li went into a private club where many married men were chatting with their sisters, she said angrily, “Don’t you have to go home to spend time with your wife and kids? She was right.
4. Don’t go out alone with the opposite sex
Except for work, do not meet with the opposite sex alone; if you must go, take your spouse with you.
Some men even as long as alone and a heterosexual in the same space, will immediately leave, such as the conference room.
If we go to sing together, it just so happens that he and a girl separately to get food met in the food area, will also not chat more quickly flash.
The more you meet a good-looking member of the opposite sex, the more you have to do this.
When you’re alone, it’s easy for ambiguity to flourish because you don’t seem to have to worry about what other people are looking at.
5. Take the initiative to hide the favorite type of the opposite sex
If you have a favorite type of the opposite sex because of courtesy, even if you do not interact with him privately, if he loves to post, it is better to hide his posts.
Otherwise, this silently watching and watching, appreciation of the growing feelings, one day having the opportunity to interact, will sprout something, like a secret love.
For example, you like to have the temperament of a girl, but the spouse is lacking this trait, one day Meet a young man, every day to sends a very touching article, and watching will be fascinating.
I believe that some people will find it too strict. If you can meet many people without being moved, naturally, you do not have to abide by it; if you cannot do so, then just be more peaceful!
It’s very hard to suppress your heart when you’ve already moved on, but if you just have a good feeling about it, you’ll soon forget about the other person.
If you do the above points, you will find that you simply can not like the outside world, the source is blocked.
Many people use politeness as an excuse to keep unnecessary contact with the opposite sex.
You may not be having an affair, but talking with the opposite sex, always looking forward to each other’s messages, appreciating each other so much, and helping him with a lot of favors, isn’t this a sign of love?
A lot of people hide it from their spouse because “you’ll think about it”, which is even worse. It’s a sign of disrespect, and it’s also very much like an excuse.
If you don’t know what’s right, you can’t tell what’s wrong! This article is to show you where the boundaries should be.
There’s nothing beautiful about ambiguity, especially when one of the partners is married. It’s just a sign of confusion and can end up being disastrous for you.
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