2 Unfortunate Misconceptions About Purpose

It’s not given to you, nor decided upon. It’s developed through experimentation.

Jonas Ressem
Insight

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I had four pieces of paper crumbled in my hands. I shook them around and unfolded two of them: ‘DJ’ and ‘Poker Player.’ That was going to be my life from that point on.

After high school, the established path was finished, and it was time to choose my own way. But I struggled. Months went by without a clue, and I increasingly felt at loss.

As the days grew in number, quiet turned to sighs, and apathy turned to anxiety. And then one evening, when I couldn’t take the frustration anymore, I put ink to four pieces of paper.

I wrote a profession on each, and decided that, whichever two I picked, was going to be my way. ‘DJ’ and ‘Poker Player’. Finally, I had a way out of the land of the lost. The only problem was I couldn’t move.

The present-day paper would say ‘writer’. And it’s something I’ve been able to move towards; I’ve found a way. However, getting here wasn’t at all straightforward. Purpose doesn’t work that way. There’s a couple of common misconceptions:

You can’t simply decide on a purpose and force yourself to have it. That’s not how you motivate behavior. Nor can you expect to be given one, by some deity…

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Jonas Ressem
Insight

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