How To Make Healthy & Empowered Decisions
You’ve got to lose your mind, just a little.
Stop. Take a look around you. Now ponder this: your life now is a reflection of all of the decisions that you have ever made.
Sure, you have sometimes been confronted with events that appear out of your control but it is ultimately your decisions — trivial, significant, easy, agonizing, instantaneous, unconscious or meticulously planned — that have shaped you, guided you and delivered you to the present moment.
Over the past 300 years, since the dawn of the Age of Enlightenment, most people have been encouraged to use logic, rationale and reason when making decisions. Our minds have been considered to be infallible computers and it has been assumed that, with the right data, intellectual prowess and step by step logic, we can always “think” our way to the best outcome.
However, using a little bit of magic, researchers in Canada have started to unravel the truth behind our choices and have confirmed that unconscious factors can influence the decisions you make, without you being aware. This is concerning for a number of reasons, particularly for those who rely purely on intellect and logic to make life’s important decisions.
Firstly, it is understood that your subconscious mind is positively teeming with thoughts (estimated at up to 4 billion pieces of information per second) and yet you will only ever be aware of a tiny fraction of this mental chatter. Secondly, it is believed that between 90–96% of your thoughts today are the same thoughts you had yesterday, and the day before, and the day before. Effectively, your subconscious mind is a broken record, stuck on a loop created in your early childhood.
What this means is that, no matter how hard you resist, most of your decisions are subject to a huge array of invisible factors such as others’ actions and suggestions, unconscious prejudices, old emotional patterns and the ingrained expectations of how your life should look. Even your most rational, logical and well-planned choices can be unconsciously driving you to repeat the past, fulfill others’ expectations or manifest a deep-set belief about yourself.
This is obviously not a problem for those who have been blessed with positive self-chatter and uplifting subconscious programming (“I am success. I draw abundance to me. I am capable of anything”). However, for most of us it is negative self-talk and limiting thought patterns that underpin each and every decision we make.
How do I make more empowered decisions?
Thankfully, modern science has provided irrefutable evidence of another, powerful subconscious force; a natural mental aptitude that, if utilized, can help you make wiser and more empowered decisions.
Over the past century, researchers have revealed that we are all intuitively connected to the world around us and even, according to some experiments, to possible future events. It is exciting to note that when we draw upon this intuitive connection, we can bypass the limiting thought patterns, prejudices and self-sabotaging beliefs that dwell in the shadows of our personal subconscious. Instead, we approach decisions from a truly empowered position; one where we are instinctively aware of the intentions of others, the probable consequences of our decisions and, importantly, the true depth of our own talents, purpose and strength.
By balancing logical thought with our natural intuitive awareness, we are able to make decisions that lead us away from the patterns of the past, and into a life of new possibilities.
Four keys to empowered decision making:
Set your intention. Before making an important decision, set a firm intention that you are going to enjoy success, joy, abundance etc as result of your choice. This instructs your subconscious mind, and life in general, to work towards that desired outcome. Be aware, intention is not just “positive thinking”; it is about engaging your emotions and body, feeling conviction and unbridled belief, and following up with real action towards the outcome as if it is a certainty.
Don’t look for the “right” decision. The inherent nature of the universe is balance, and therefore any decision you make will lead to both challenging consequences and pleasant rewards. Sometimes the most empowered choices create short-term upheaval, and may disturb the equilibrium of your life. Let go of the need to be “right” or the fear of being “wrong”. Instead, approach major decisions with a sense of adventure and a desire to become a greater version of yourself, however that looks once the dust has settled.
Trust your gut. Balance logic and reason with your natural intuitive instincts. Research suggests that sometimes your body knows best, so learn what “the truth” feels like to you. What does it feel like when you are being completely open and honest? What reaction does your body have when you are being dishonest? Learn the difference, and pay close attention if a person, place or course of action causes your body to have a “dishonesty” reaction. Look for “the truth” within your body, in all decisions that you make.
Be aware of timing. If life is throwing up roadblocks at every turn, it may not be that your decision is poor. It may simply be that it is not the best time to put your choice into action. When you are aligned with your life’s natural timing, things will flow easily, doors will magically open and you will encounter more coincidences and synchronicities. Please note, this is not licence to sit back and make no decisions at all. In order to be fulfilled and content in life, it will be necessary to step out of your comfort zone on occasion and make tough decisions. The important thing is to be intuitively aware of life’s natural flow, to move forward fearlessly when life appears to be supporting you and to practice patience and grace during times of stasis.
Kim Forrester is an award-winning author, educator and intuitive consultant with over 15 years’ experience as a professional intuitive and spiritual teacher. She combines cutting edge science with traditional spirituality to offer the latest understandings of psi, consciousness and holistic well being.