The misleading tales our parents tell us

I’ve grown up in an odd household. When I was little I was constantly bouncing back and forth from being in an impoverished situation to having a not so impoverished problem all because of my parents. My mother doesn’t make much, and my father made a lot. This taught me a few things and expresses the strange misleading words that our parents tell us. ( In the end I chose my mother over an abusive father and not a day I would change.)
1. Keep your eyes on the prize and focus on the future

One of our biggest lies we hear in our childhood, and its destructive. It promotes the value of things over relationships. Let’s change this perspective. Live or work in the moment. When you think about if you were told this you would work harder in the moment because it keeps them focused. They will do better in school, and form better relationships.
2. Stress is inevitable- push through it

I think that is the worst piece of advice I have ever seen in my life. Children need to learn to chill out not become over come by anxiety and driven to act out. My mom always told me to take a chill pill a piece of advice that I have learned to accept. Appreciate silence.
3. Stay busy

No. No. No. Staying busy makes us believe that we must be doing something every second of our life instead of enjoying the moment that we are in. What we need to do is learn to have fun doing nothing and this goes both to adults and kids. I mean our options are so wide that we need to limit them anyways. Too many options is the reasons why our teenage suicides due to drugs is so high.
4. Its a dog- eat dog world — look out for number one

Lie. A kid will grow up feeling so self important they won’t be able to share or care about other people. In fact, we need to learn to deal with this as well. Rather than allow an entitled generation to form we should be using the words “ compassion is key.” Teach yourself, and others the way of compassion and you’ll never for a second think twice about the life you life.
In the end- I can’t tell you how to raise your child. I can only tell you that it is important to pay attention to what we give for advice to our children, and ourselves to form happiness.
Courtesy of Psychology today — https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/feeling-it/201707/6-pieces-bad-advice-we-give-kids

