You Don’t Owe Me Anything

On the one hand, when someone pays to use my product or my service, she becomes a customer of mine. And that’s it. She doesn’t own my life.

On the other hand, when I pay someone to help me build a product, he becomes a partner of mine. And that’s it. He doesn’t owe me anything.

Giving someone money doesn’t mean you own their time, or you can control their thought, or you can invade their private life. You own them nothing.

  • I saw someone yelling at a waitress who accidentally serves a wrong dish.
  • I read a post on Facebook complaining at a barbershop down the street when she doesn’t look as good as a picture from a magazine.
  • I knew a CEO of my ex-company demanded 24 x 7 responsiveness on every communication channel from his direct reports.

Is there a humanity in that? — I don’t think so.

Do you think your money can buy anything including a right to harshly complain, a permission to humiliate someone, and a power to control someone else’s privacy?

No, No and No.

Even though you pay, when you need something, the only way you can do is to ask for help, to inspire them to act, and to say thank you always.

Definitely, that is a lot harder than demanding, ordering, and forcing on others with your authority.

But that is how a real leader acts — to treat everyone with dignity, to be ready to accept a decline when you ask, to learn to inspire rather than manipulate.

Remember, they don’t owe you anything. And it is not totally wrong if you think you owe them something. Probably, that is a right mindset. Without your team, you are nothing.

Thinking and writing are the things I like. Sharing is what I love. Because of them, I write everyday to share stories from my thoughts and experiences, from the future I see and believe in. Everything I use to build Inthentic a better home. A home of people who want to do good things and give back. A home that is a small starting point of changes for a better society. I am proud of what I am doing. And even prouder to know that I am not doing it alone.

Thanks for reading. :-)

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