Book Review: Nonviolent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg

Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication is one of my favorite books on the Integral Coaching Reading List.

It is heavily practical, and introduces a framework to express yourself in any heated and tricky situation while being authentic. Its key underlying message is: self-connection is necessary for connection with others, and the better we are at being with our feelings and needs, the better communicators we can become.

The three pillars of nonviolent communication framework are:

• connecting to self,
• connecting to another person, and
• expressing self authentically.

These three sensibilities create an opportunity for a non-judgemental and inviting way of being in the world and with others. One needs to be present and attuned to self and others to describe own observations, actual feelings, needs, and requests.

I was drawn to nonviolent communication for its non-judgemental nature, and the invitation to be transparent and honest in own self-expression. NVC requires a ton of courage to practice, and would mean deep empathy, willingness to explore possible solutions, find common ground, and get conflict resolved in a peaceful, life-creating way.

For the coaching practice, nonviolent communication is relevant for at least two reasons. First, it allows the coach to practice the authentic way of connecting and communicating with the client. Especially when they face a moment of conflict or enter a difficult conversation. Second, it is a great practice to offer to clients who are working with their relational and emotional sensibilities.

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