Battling Over Powerlessness and Unworthiness
One of the things that make or mar our potential for intentional excellence is our belief system. I have encountered many people, including those who have become highly successful, who harbour strong beliefs that are contrary to the reality of their personality.
Sometimes, our belief system becomes so crippling that we are not even able to affirm our positive confessions. This is true with many of us who are battling over powerlessness and unworthiness.
The question then is where does this belief system come from? I have come to understand that this is a product of our growing up. [tweetthis]Too many of us grow up with belief systems that truncate our potential and destroy our personality.[/tweetthis] Two of many things we believe in that end up ruining our ability to live in our full potential is powerlessness and unworthiness.
Many of us hold one or two of these contradictory and damaging beliefs that work against our ability to be all that we can. I have met only a handful of people who do not possess any of these two. Some people feel the sense of powerlessness because they’ve always been told they are mere humans. Others feel the sense of unworthiness because they’ve always been told they don’t deserve to be loved.
Why do people struggle with addition? It is because they struggle with the sense and feeling of powerlessness. Why do people struggle with failure and inferior self-image? It is because they struggle with the sense and feeling of unworthiness.
Powerlessness is the belief in our inability to bring into being all the things we desire or really care about — happy marriage, good job, wealth, beautiful relationships, and freedom to live happily. Unworthiness is the belief that we do not deserve to have what we truly desire.
These two form the core of the resistance we face or encounter as we follow our dream. As we work towards our goal and vision for life, these may manifest in different forms. When we lose our energy, when we question whether we really wanted the dream, we finishing the job become more difficult, when people we hold dear and trust let us down, when unforeseen obstacles crop up in our journey.
But then, these are not unsurmountable situations in life. As a matter of fact, many people have encountered these and have come out strong, with more vigour and passion for the things they desire and want to achieve. Though these may come, it all depends on how you respond at the long run.
First, you may decide to give up the dream and vision when you become overwhelmed by the feeling of powerlessness or unworthiness.
Second, you may decide on focusing on avoiding what we don’t want, rather than creating what we want. For people who use this approach, even when they achieve what they want, they still live in fear of losing them again.
Third, you may decide to push yourself up in your mind to overpower all forms of resistance to achieving your goals. This is willpower — an undistracted focus on your goals, willingness to pay the price, and the ability to defeat any opposition and surmount any obstacle.
However, if the feeling of powerlessness and unworthiness are rooted in a belief system, then, they can also be changed by a superior belief system. We will need a gradual process of re-engineering our mind by learning new truths about who we truly are and become aware of them. You may decide to seek a spiritual solution or look for books that will renew your mind with more empowering belief system. This may take a long process but it will surely work.
