Think Before You Speak

I was taught from an early age to think before I spoke. To prevent rash and regrettable decisions and consider if what I was saying was relevant and innocuous. But as I get older, I notice that this idea of thinking before you speak is forgotten and people just say whatever they want, completely oblivious to who they could be offending.

I began to notice this in one of my classes. The class is an upper level elective so everyone who takes it is expected to be mature. Sadly, there are a few students who haven’t reached this maturity and don’t know how to filter what they say. These students show complete disrespect to the teacher, curse uncontrollably and disregard everyone sitting around them and how they might react to the comments they make during the class period. In one situation a student blatantly announced to their table that their dad would “kick them out if they were gay”. They don’t know who in the class actually has a situation like that and what response that could trigger. After this comment was said another student muttered something under their breath that was most likely offensive because the teacher got involved and promised to write up a DASA report if she heard anything like that again. The response to that promise was unconcern. They said that DASA was “stupid” and “making us soft”. They believe that DASA is just a thing that’s getting in their way of what they think is telling the truth.

Another saying I hear thrown around a lot is “I’d rather kill myself”. It is a completely provocative sentence and used in the most inappropriate manor. It’s used to describe what someone would do instead of doing such a simple task like write an essay, go to Spanish class or restart a project. It’s an inappropriate sentence because let’s be real, you’re not really going to kill yourself instead of writing down the present tense forms of “amar”. You’re going to do it, you’d just rather spend your time doing something that appeals to you than do homework, as I assume everyone else would too.

People need to realize that words do hurt. Even if those words are not directly pointed at someone they still have an impact. Hearing works in wondrous ways, someone could be completely unaware of anything you’re saying but one word, or one statement could completely absorb them and they’ll hang on to everything you say afterwards.

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