Sex Experiments 2021 Series Part 1
9 Ways To Orgasm With 69 Sex Position, Every Single Time
Undress, get on top, and roll over me.
I love the 69 position. Period!
If there is one position outside of missionary and doggy that works for both of us, it’s the good old #69.
Speaking of old, 69 has significant historical references. According to Wikipedia,
The earliest unequivocal representation of the sixty-nine appears to be that on an oil-lamp preserved in the Munich Museum …. to be of the period of the Roman Caesars
In Kamasutra which was written in the 3rd century A.D., there are references to the 69 position as “congress of the crow”
The name “69” however is a French gift to the world and dates back to the time of the French revolution.
According to Dictionary and Wikipedia, it is referenced in a 1790 French work, “The Whore’s Catechisms” who described a soixante-neuf or “sixty-nine” in French.
It is believed that 69 has existed for as long as humans.
However, there are detractors who think it isn’t for the orgasm, but since both I and my wife will disagree, several times over ;-), I am going to explain how we make it fun for both of us.
But a side note, first.
It’s all about Experiments
Let’s talk about everything in the context of a deeply enjoyable sexual experience.
69, by the very nature of its structure, offers deep intimacy, and yet a touch of vulnerability that acts to heighten the sexual pleasure in the end.
Being present in the moment to use my mouth sensually while getting sexually gratified by my wife is a novel experience.
It’s one of the best positions when we want to go really slow and go multiple times.
After reading our experience, go ahead and try it with your partner.
And when you get it right, it can be downright one of the best experiences you will have.
If you’re not into it, you’re not, but before you’ve completely checked out of the 69 club, you could try these time-tested tricks to bring the fun back in 69 for you and your partner.
Tell me how it went, later. Okay?
How we enjoy the 69 experience, every time!
As with any sex position that isn’t missionary, there are always a few kinks to iron, and that’s fine by us.
Ultimately, it’s about our own pleasure and comfort. And in order to make sure it is fun for both of us, here are some of the things we have discovered that make 69 our go-to position for an orgasm again and again.
We are selfish
If there is one thing we’ve learned in our experience with 69, it is this.
And it’s the simplest.
We focus on our own pleasure first.
And that is on the receiving side of things. As long as both of us are focusing on enjoying ourselves and having a good time, the position works very well for us.
Why it works
Because we are both giving oral with our mouths, each of us gently guides the other towards what’s working for us in the moment on our genitalia, and we hit the home run every single time.
Subconsciously, we’re also performing acts on the other that we’d like performed on ourselves, and that acts as a guiding mechanism, which brings me to my next point:
We use our hands, generously
This one works great and once again, I can tell from several mind-blowing orgasms under the belt (quite literally) with 69.
Since we’re not a lot into anal stimulation, we enjoy stroking the back of knees, and her favorite — nipple play, using my hands to heighten the sense of double play (and sometimes the dash of a blended orgasm).
This happens because while I have unrestricted access to her clitoris, I know I’m also making her go wild simply by using my hands for massaging her most sensual zones, especially her nipples.
These may be different for each individual, but for us, the inner thighs work very well for her, and around the perineum works for me.
Why It works
The ideal position for us is when she’s on top and I’m laying down but while she’s getting her clitoral sucked and nipples gently massaged, her mouth reciprocates in kind on my dick.
The cycle carries on until we’re both exhausted with loud moans of pleasure, which leads me to the next point:
We moan with pleasure
69 isn’t just about oral. While we’re down there, we take a breather from sucking (we have to, because of the odd angle) a few times and tell each other how we’re making each other feel.
And we do this with moans and groans.
Since our faces aren’t in close proximity, we can’t obviously whisper in a sexy tone, and speaking out loud kills the vibe. The best way for us to communicate our feelings in the moment is by way of moaning and the close proximity to her clitoris just makes her shudder even more.
Why It Works
The proximity to the clitoris is important because the moans of excitement seem to reverberate around the sensual zones.
While we’re taking time to breathe and moan,
We make time to explore all around
And not just the genitalia.
Putting our tongue and teeth (very very gentle nibbling) to good use by licking and biting on other erogenous zones down there, it is a surefire way to build up for explosive orgasms, for both of us.
Who said 69 is only about giving oral sex?
Her hot spots are spread almost all around her torso, all the way from the top of her breasts, down to her belly button, around her love handles, the area all around her vagina, and the inner thighs.
That makes my job of making her scream with ecstasy every time, very easy, especially during a 69.
Why It Works
I focus on the areas in close proximity to her vagina, which makes her thighs shudder, like an electric pulse, and before we know it, she immediately begins to squeeze my head tight in her thighs. It helps her raise her hips wildly just so as to get close to my tongue for it to do its job on her clitoris.
Since she has several hot spots, one of them being her breasts, I also make sure that our act of 69 includes some form of breast play.
Therefore:
We start with the upper body
She lies down on her back, with her head tilted slightly over the edge of the bed sideways. This way, I can start while kneeling on the bedside before getting fully on top of her.
We start by kissing each other on the mouth, but the directions of our faces are opposite, and it’s hot as hell, in and of itself, acting as a prelude to a steamy session.
I then gently roll my tongue all the way through her upper body, in gentle, yet sensual strokes, thereby licking around all of her erogenous zones before I hit the spot.
Why It Works
The act of 69 doesn’t just stay as one form of oral sex for us. It has become a whole new way of exploring and savoring each others’ bodies, without making any form of eye contact.
By the time I’m down there, she’s begging to suck my dick like its candy.
To make sure she’s having a great time while doing it,
We make sure to keep ourselves clean
So, we shower before every 69 session.
Since we’re not into anal, having a bum in the face could be offputting sometimes. And when you’re in the heat of the moment, any odd smell could seriously cramp your style :-)
As long as we’re both clean before getting down and dirty, we know that we’ve got an explosive fun session ahead of us.
Why it works
A shower together heightens our desire for each other. We build upon the anticipation by keeping our hands off of each other through the shower, using our imagination on what’s about to happen between the sheets.
There was a time when we found the top and bottom roles were beginning to get a bit monotonous. So, we decided to spice it up with:
Going sideways
While we both love and swear by 69, we found this cheeky little alternative.
And you guessed it right, we HAD to try it out.
Trust me, none of us enjoyed it that much.
Why It Didn’t Work (For Us)
When we’re sideways, at some point, she wants to rest her leg on top of my face (as you can see in the picture above) and this leads to some discomfort, so we’re not a big fan of this.
The last thing that we keep in mind to enjoy our sessions of 69 is this.
We do not pressure ourselves into the big O
Achieving a shared climax is obviously an icing on the cake, but ultimately, we’re doing this for enhancing your intimacy in and outside the bedroom and that takes precedence.
So we do not think of an orgasm as the big goal. The fact that we’re able to get it every single time is a welcome bonus, but we keep our minds off of the pressure, at all times.
Why 69 might be tough for some
Like with any point of view and opinion, 69 has its own fair share of haters and detractors. Here are some reasons why it might not be for you.
I also include my own point of view on each of these, so take them with a pinch of salt, and have fun trying this position.
There’s too much going on at the same time
You are trying to give as well as receive pleasure simultaneously.
While giving someone pleasure, trying to receive a similar or heightened state of pleasure, (and sometimes with difficulty in breathing) can quickly turn into a chore.
To my mind, however, that’s what all sex acts and positions are all about. You’re doing both, simultaneously so not sure what the hoo-ha is all about.
Ultimately, as long as you enjoy oral sex (both giving and receiving, this position is a pretty good way to enjoy it)
The partners have significantly different height
It is a tough one because it is one of those areas where size does matter.
If one partner is more than a few inches taller than the other, it is hard to enjoy this position to the fullest but there are ways around it.
You could both take turns giving oral while the other partner sucks and licks on the body part that is closest to them. The shorter partner will get access to the chest while the taller partner will get access to the inner thighs and knees.
Gentle tongue work in sync with receiving oral pleasure definitely heightens my state of pleasure.
Also, consider the same problem with missionary style. If you have a significant height difference, you might have a hard time fully engaging in a missionary position like it is meant to be.
That doesn’t mean such couples only have doggy style as their go-to position.
Disclaimer: My opinion is possibly skewed as the wife and I are both similar height, but for the folks out there — unless you’re like 4 feet and 6 feet individually, I don’t see this to be a big problem.
I mean you do love missionary, don’t you?
What’s In Our Playroom Next?
This year it’s all about experiments for us. While doing research for this article, I came upon this interesting tidbit of a post from SheKnows, and this is definitely going in our playbook to try next time we’re on 69.
Read this excerpt straight from the SheKnows playbook of kinky plays with handcuffs.
How you do it: “For this position, the submissive partner is on the bottom. ‘Queening’ is also known as ‘sitting on his face,’ so this is an oral sex position where the woman gets lovely licks while the man’s wrists are bound above his head; she just has to take care not to put her weight on his arms when settling in to be pleasured. This could also be modified to involve woman-on-top intercourse but with the bottom cuffed,” Queen says.
Why it feels so good: “One thing the Fifty Shades of Grey reader doesn’t really get is a positive look at a woman on top,” she says. “‘Queening’ is a very good tease position, where the top person almost lowers herself onto the bottom person but doesn’t quite make contact… ’till their partner begs!”
Interesting Find
When Planned Parenthood writes about 69, you know that this is serious business.
In conclusion
69 is an interesting position and has historical origins. If you are looking to fire up your sex life, it is definitely one of the must-haves in your repertoire of sex positions for all times.
Yes, there are differences of opinion, but then which position is just as plain vanilla comfortable as missionary?
As the old saying goes, no pain no gain.
As long as you’re willing for some discomfort, following these tips will surely make your next session of 69 super fun.
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