An intimate interview| Jack
The strength of our community is the people, learn a little about how different people engage in a sexy adult lifestyle.
Not all of the people we interview are comfortable with their identities being revealed. When we chat to people who have made this industry their livelihoods, they are typically open to it as many people already know and it is fairly commercial discussion.
When we talk to our community, far fewer of these individuals prefer to be named. For the most part this is simply because the of potential judgement that may follow. Our community is made up of professionals of all walks of life and today we chat to a senior executive in the digital world, let’s call him Jack, who has a enjoys exploration in fetish and kink, Jack has been an active member of the community for many years.
Jack is sadist, one of the nicest sadists you will ever meet, but he genuinely loves inflicting just the right amount of pain on others. In this well balanced world in which we live, there are some people who love feeling pain and find that a huge sexual rush and there are people who love dishing it out — and that is Jack.
Sensation, impact, deprivation… It isn’t about any single activity for Jack. There is no “I must have this” activity. It is all about the connection. That connection is mostly the mental engagement before, during and after the punishment is delivered, but also about the connection of that thick leather strap colliding into the soft round rump displayed before him… Everyone likes the strap, eventually.
From a sadists perspective, there is nothing better than challenging someone’s preconceptions of what they are capable of, what their threshold of pain is. It is quite special for a sadist to help their subject reach that realisation of what their true capabilities are. As Jack always says “If you are going to leave an impression, make sure it is one that lasts… ;-)”
How do you describe your involvement in the world of adult?
Jack: My involvement has been primarily social. I first discovered various alternative sexual lifestyles in my twenties but being from the very conservative southeast United States, I put participation on the back burner. Marriage, kids, career, and an intolerant culture did not make for open exploration in my world. I had to wait until much later. Over the past couple of years I have been able to travel and meet friends in the community all across the US. It has been absolutely wonderful.
Tell us a little about how you started to explore this initially?
Jack: I discovered this world much the way most people do today, via the Internet. Thankfully technology has come a long way since the days of ICQ.
How do you met new people in the space?
Jack: I spent time online at various websites and eventually met some local members of the community that were kind enough to give me guidance and introduce me to others in the community who were trusted.
What role has trust and safety played in your exploration?
Jack: Having executive level positions in companies has meant trust was of utmost importance. Safety was and is always paramount. Out of a need for high levels of trust and safety, initial interactions have always been slow. It takes time to get to know someone, to put them through their paces and to determine if they are who they say they are.
Have you had any bad experiences when people have found out about your experiences?
Jack: I have been incredibly lucky. The only person to ever expose me has been me. That is a right that has been taken away from people far too many times and often to devastating consequences.
Favourite aspect of the community?
Jack: The people. By definition, it attracts smart, curious, open minded people that you might not otherwise encounter on that level in everyday life.
Biggest myth about the community you would like to dispel?
Jack: In everyday life, our culture worships facets of life that are lived extreme. Extreme dedication to the pursuit of hobbies, careers and businesses. Participation in extreme events, long distance running or cycling, rock climbing, MMA. Why is it that society holds people who apply the same fervour to their sex lives as aberration? That something must be ‘wrong’ with them for enjoying what they enjoy. I want to dispel the idea that you must be damaged to enjoy a sex life that exists outside the boundaries of the missionary position once a week with the same person for the rest of your life.
Favourite websites and why?
Jack: Fetlife… It is where I have met so many friends, made so many connections with wonderful people. It is full of people, ideas, and things that I would not have come across otherwise. And at the risk of sounding cliche, I enjoy the articles. So many members are such amazing writers. Seriously… (Ok. You can laugh now.)
What have your learnt about yourself on your journey?
Jack: That is a long list. Probably the most surprising thing that I learned about myself… And this will seem incredibly tame… I am actually an extrovert. All these years of hiding behind a facade of introversion, wasted…
What would you tell others wanting to begin their own exploration?
Jack: Do it. Start now. Read. Study. Learn. But first and foremost, do what you have to do to take on a mindset of honesty, with yourself. Your experiences will be so much better, so much more meaningful, if you begin to practice self awareness combined with being honest to yourself and those around you about what you learn about yourself along the way.
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