BEING A SOCIAL INTROVERT AND DEALING WITH IT
At every party, family get together or a re-union, you will find at least one personality who is socially introverted. That introverted personality is not shy or silent; it’s just the way his or her brain is programmed to be. Many of the common folks, who luckily do not have any introvert characteristics, believe that being a social introvert is just a big joke and since they don’t really understand what’s inside an introvert’s brain, it ultimately results in casting away people with such difficulties.
Socializing Expectations vs Reality
Supposedly, you have won a lottery ticket. Now, once you know that you are getting the lottery money, you will imagine all kinds of things to do with that money even before actually getting it. The same thing happens with social introverts, they start imagining a scenario where people are kind to them, good to them and everything impossible is in their favor even before actually getting introduced to other people.
Too Much Socializing, Still Nothing
One of the major problems with social introverts is that they want to attend every social event they possibly can. Sometimes it can get too much with not having proper days for recovery. Attending each and every occasion in the week and at the end still feeling the same is stupid. The best way to prevent this is by organizing yourself.
Practicing the Pep Talk
Not able to start a conversation is one of the biggest struggles of being an introvert. Introducing is hard and keeping up with the conversation is draining. So the initial mindset of every social introvert is to save as much energy as possible during large gatherings and social meets. However, no matter how much you like the dark corner, try making new friends now and then.
Learning to Say NO
Think twice before you say yes to your next invitation, are you charged enough? While most introverts are poorly gifted at saying NO, it is necessary to understand that it is completely okay to say so. Denying an invitation does not always mean that you don’t want to stay with that person, it can also mean that you have other plans.
Filtering the Friend Circle
There are all kinds of personalities in a group and it is not necessary that you should be good friends with everyone. We’ve all seen movies with extroverts trying to bully introverts and making them do all their homework and stuff. Don’t let them have you, stop hanging out with them.
Enjoying Doing Things Alone
Yes, being a social introvert is related to not being social and doing things alone may not be the best advice you can give. But the point here refers to embracing the things that you do alone. Not everyone is socially gifted, but that should not stop you from discovering what things you enjoy doing.
Being Honest with Everyone
Most of the social introverts start their conversation with a lie, fearing the truth will make them more of a looser. However, this is not at all true. Not everyone is evil and hunting for preys with weak will, just be calm and speak truth. Being honest with everyone you meet will help you avoid any misunderstandings and awkward situations.
Establishing an Ideal Environment
While you are saying yes to every invitation you get, take a moment to think, do you actually like the environment there? Most social introverts attend the gatherings they are called to, but only because they don’t want the left out feeling. It takes a long time before they actually realize the kind of environment they like.
Having a Backup Buddy
Obviously, social introverts would prefer more time alone than with a group. This causes difficulty in communicating with any new person and can sometimes be a huge pain. For instance, going to a shop and buying a list of items is an extremely easy job for an extrovert but a difficult job for an introvert. The complicated the job, the difficult it becomes and so in these cases, having a buddy as a backup is the next best thing.
