Are You Sabotaging Yourself? 5 Signs You’re Emotionally Unavailable
Let me guess. You push people away when they’re getting too close. You feel attracted to elusive, distant people. Maybe you have been seeing someone but you’ve been on and off for a few months (or years). You don’t want things to get too serious, and you probably struggle to love yourself, no matter how carefree and easygoing you seem to be.
And the best part is, you think this is normal, because “it’s just how dating works nowadays”. After all, everybody knows there has to be some mystery, right?
Bullshit. That’s just something we have all assumed to be true, because we live in a fucked up society where we’re all avoiding our own demons. It’s not normal, and it’s not healthy at all.
We all have demons. We see them lurking inside us. We detach ourselves from them, secretly hoping they will go away. But they won’t. Not until we address and work through them.
In my case, my demons were related to my abandonment issues. Obviously, I was not aware of them. But I was aware that something was really wrong with me and I was determined to figure out what it was. So I decided to be alone for awhile, and I told myself I wouldn’t get involved in a serious relationship until I had actually figured it out. I had to focus on myself and I didn’t want to hurt anyone…
