Attachment Imprints And The Pursuit of Love
Improving one’s relational lens by healing childhood wounds
“Attachment is a unifying principle that reaches from the biological depths of our being to its furthest spiritual reaches.” ~ Jeremy Holmes, John Bowlby and Attachment Theory
For better or worse, attachment is our biological inheritance. In fact, the quandary of relational desires, unrealized hunger for a beloved, frustrated dependency needs, and the blight of loneliness infiltrate the psychotherapy sessions I facilitate on a regular basis. My clients corroborate that although it is an irrefutable fact that human beings require secure connections to others, the unbearable frustration and pain of betrayal, manipulative dynamics and power-submissive patterns seem to make the quest for bonding an insurmountable feat.
This pursuit is all the more challenging for those who suffer from complex trauma.
When developmental disasters due to early attachment injuries are in command, the fears that are ignited hark back to memories of abandonment, engulfment, humiliation, exploitation, neglect and physical, emotional, and sexual abuse. Repetitious traumatic recall triggers self-loathing, nihilistic despair, and insatiable unmet infantile dependency needs, making one ill-equipped to give or receive healthy…
