Attracted to Narcissists

Examining the echoist, the empath and the love addict

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Anyone can become a mark for a calculated narcissistic abuser, as they are highly skilled at manipulating all kinds of individuals, regardless of background, intelligence, strength, or social status. That many narcissists are initially very charming, funny, engaging, and even magnetic, makes people feel special in their presence. Likewise, narcissists often project extreme self-assurance. People can be drawn in by their feigned confidence, which can be easily mistaken for true capability or leadership.

Above all, despite their lack of empathy, narcissists often have a strong intuitive sense of how people tick. They can read emotional cues and quickly figure out what someone wants to hear or needs to feel validated. By overwhelming others with attention, affection, praise, or generosity a fast bond and a sense of dependency or loyalty can be created.

Once the malignant narcissist gains trust or influence, they proceed with subtly distorting reality by twisting facts, denying things they said or did, or making you doubt your perception or feelings. Zeroing in on people’s insecurities, traumas, or unmet emotional needs allows the narcissist to lever control, guilt-trip and manipulate. Divide and conquer tactics are also employed by pitting people against each other…