Be Aware of Destination Addiction

A preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job, and the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else, it will never be where you are.

Robert Holden

This was posted on my community Evolutionary You, with a question:

How do we evolve if we are satisfied with what we have? Doesn't the hunger to learn more take us to new places?

I thought this would be an excellent topic to write about, given the current situation in our Covid-19 lives. Many people don’t seem to be happy with their current location, and the quote is basically asking people to be present and content in the now.

Because now is what any of us ever have. Things can change in an instant, and with that instant, tomorrow may never come.
So do you live life resenting and unhappy in your present? Many do. But that is up to your perspective. Some are forever grateful for what they have, and others will always say they will have their lives in perfect order once they accomplish X, Y, and Z.

But wanting more is never a bad thing. It is great to have goals and dreams for the future. But ask yourself what is driving those goals.

Is it the hunger to learn?

Is it the hunger to do better, to be better, to have more, to be more?

Does having more or achieving more fill you? Or will it never fill you with satisfaction because there will always be thoughts onto the next thing, the next target, the next destination?

The motivation of what drives us forward will be critical in your satisfaction of fulfillment in life. If what you do is to show society how good you are or how good you can have it, that validation and power of contentment are outside of you. You will always be striving for the next best thing, unable to stand in the stillness of the present.

But if what you do is for your own growth, no matter if you do it well or not, the power of contentment sits within you. You can be happy with you at any moment. So why not be happy now, in the present, AND be positive and goal setting in your future. No one ever said you couldn’t have both. But if you are happy in the present, then anything else that comes your way is just adding to your happiness. If you can’t be content in the now, then you may never see the positives in the future… for the future is only created in the power of the present.

My name is Joy Lin and I have been a spiritual medium for over 10 years. For more information on my journey and services go to

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