Helpful Things To Say To Someone With Post Traumatic Stress Disorder ~

Michelle Monet
Jul 17, 2017 · 3 min read

People don’t know what to say sometimes.

When I got my ‘diagnosis’ of PTSD recently it felt so liberating and relieving but my boyfriend is more of a ‘buck it up!’ type of person and I don’t think he felt the same relief. I think he felt a bit — -unhappy about it.

Some of the comments he made to me made me feel far more panicky, like:

“Just decide to STOP!’

“Its all in YOUR head so YOU can choose to change it’.

Sounds easy eh? Trust me it is not.

I am grateful to find some great resources and help online. I found this article by Lilly Hope Lucario about how to talk to someone who has PTSD.

She said:

‘As a result some say things that are harmful, invalidating and hurtful. Often unintentionally. Some avoid us, either because they don’t know what to say, or because they don’t want to deal with our pain.’

Some suggest we should be over this, or shame us for talking about past trauma. That increases the isolation and shame survivors often feel.

Here is a list of things survivors of complex trauma, who have Complex PTSD, feel are helpful.

  1. I believe you. (This is the most important).

https://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/

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Invisible Illness

We don't talk enough about mental health.

Michelle Monet

Written by

Musician. Author. Poet. Seeker. Currently writing showbiz memoir and Broadway style Musical. Contact me at michelle@michellemonet.com

Invisible Illness

We don't talk enough about mental health.

Michelle Monet

Written by

Musician. Author. Poet. Seeker. Currently writing showbiz memoir and Broadway style Musical. Contact me at michelle@michellemonet.com

Invisible Illness

We don't talk enough about mental health.

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