How Relationships Change After Healing Your Trauma

3 ways our perspectives change about relationships.

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The following content includes experiences and discussions around difficult topics such as trauma, emotional challenges, childhood maltreatment, or toxic relationships. While my intent is to educate and share personal insights, some readers may find certain content emotionally distressing. This article is for informational purposes only.

There can be a ‘comfortable’ familiarity in holding on to trauma, especially if it’s all you’ve known, or all you’ve been taught. Walking around exhausted all the time, numb, feeling misunderstood, judged, or betrayed in your relationships can feel like it’s just another day with the same pattern. When these patterns are longstanding and have replayed often enough, you can start to believe this is just how relationships are. These are the same dynamics that identify love as something that is supposed to be earned and where it can be impulsively taken away at a moment’s notice, leaving you feeling more betrayed, empty, and vulnerable.

So, when does this pattern stop?

For some, the realizations can come on slowly and only over time. If you fall into this group, you have probably noticed that it was only after these patterns have replayed over and over, which left…