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Mental Note Vol. 27

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Hi everyone! Congrats on making it through another week on such a difficult time. Take some time to enjoy some of our best stories from last week, all of which were curated!

“Discarded by a Narcissist”Rev. Sheri Heller, LCSW

“In truth, the final discard necessitates the former supply having a plan of attack. Temptation does not mean opportunity. As with any drug, in order to establish recovery the target needs to refuse to participate in this toxic relationally addictive pattern. This means preparing for a period of detox and regulation and keeping in mind that reclaiming one’s essential worth and sanity depends on detaching with an ax and never going back. Maintaining this conviction may require taking legal action, seeing a therapist who specializes in narc abuse and having daily contact with survivors through web forums. Whatever is necessary, it is critical to accept that making the discard one’s last is a life changing and pivotal step towards ever salvaging a future of happiness and stability.”

“How I Overcame PTSD from Childbirth”Catherine Mancini

“I strongly encourage all women to see a trusted doctor, nurse, or midwife after birth and speak out about any negative feelings you may be feeling. Your mental health is important and it doesn’t make you a bad mother.

I am so thankful that my family doctor was there to set everything in motion for me so that I could finally heal.”

“5 Habits I Use to Lower My Anxiety”Benya Clark

“I’ve struggled with three major mental health issues throughout my life: addiction, depression, and anxiety. It may come as a surprise, but it’s actually the last of these — anxiety — which I often find most debilitating.

I’ve been sober for four years and my depression appears to be in remission, but my anxiety continues to give me trouble. That’s why it’s so important to me to have a consistent set of strategies to manage it.”

“Why Fantasizing About Death Isn’t Always Harmful” Akos Peterbencze

“Fantasizing about accidental dying all comes down to how you choose to view these malicious thoughts. If you obsess over them, they can cripple your mental and physical health by putting you in a constant state of fear and worry. But by becoming aware of their improbability and understanding how they make you feel can be the first step to gain control over them.”

“Can You Suffer From Chronic Pain and Still Be Happy?”JennyB

“I want you to know that if you’re consistent with working on the skills that will promote happiness, you won’t lose the joy that is still shining inside you.

It may be dim, and at times it might seem like it’s burned out, but it hasn’t, there’s still some light left in you. Don’t give up and let the happiness inside you burn out for good.”

“I Lost a Baby and I Almost Lost Myself”Martha Manning, Ph.D.

“For myself, I began a baby box for Gonzo. I put in all of the images, the positive pregnancy wand, the calendar, the Irish baby book, as well as poems, lyrics, pictures. Every now and then, I pull the box down from the shelf and sit with Gonzo, my child of possibility. My grief is well muted, but my memory and imagination are not. And in that, I know that every time I am cursed, I may, in kind, be blessed.”

“‘Pure-O’: A Disputed Type Of OCD Which Is Harming Recovery”Mike Martin

“There are likely 100s, if not 1000s, of people who are out there seeking some sought of help, support, and guidance for what falls into the ‘pure-o’ bucket. They’re possibly missing the obvious, and it’s stopping them from recognising their symptoms. It’s stopping them from starting recovery.

‘Pure-O’ is a type of OCD that has been poorly named. ‘Pure-O’ has obsessions, and it has compulsions if you look hard enough for them.”

“How Reading Fiction Can Boost Your Mental Health”Fleurine Tideman

“Reading will never cure your mental illness or completely transform your mental health, and I won’t claim such. But reading can be a great stepping stone to finding balance and joy in your days. It can provide you with a moment to yourself, without fearing time alone. It can nourish your soul more than rewatching a show or losing yourself in the comparisons of social media. I like to consider reading as a gift that I offer myself day after day and one that I feel grateful for. Find the joy in reading, the one that fuelled you as a child or adolescent, and welcome it back into your life. These days, we sorely need that joy.”

“3 Things You Should Stop Doing to Protect Your Mental Health” Saarim Aslam

“If you’re able to stop doing these three things, you have a much better chance at protecting your mental health as you’re reducing the chances of negative emotions overwhelming you:

Stop blaming yourself for things that you can’t control.
Stop taking failures to heart.
Stop spending a lot of your time on media sources.”

“How Depression Interfered With My Education” Robin Lee

“I spent years of my life beating myself up over my academic failures. Depression made me feel dumb. But I wasn’t. My mind was sick, and when I realized that I had a mental illness, I was able to release some of those feelings of guilt and shame. My life will always be affected by depression, but I will never let it make me feel dumb again.”

Juliette, Marie, Meredith, Ryan!



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