My Childhood Set Me Up For Unsuccessful Relationships
My relationships were a mess until I chose to deal with unhealed childhood trauma
I have been single as well as abstinent for nine years. In a society where women are particularly regarded with disdain or pity for not being partnered because we assign their worth to their relationships with other people, I feel at peace. Being able to do what I want, when I want, without having to consider the needs or wants of a partner as well as being able to take the time to get to know and understand myself are benefits that I don’t wish to give up anytime soon.
However, I didn’t always feel this positive about being single. It’s taken a lot of unlearning negativity and self-examination to reach the point of being satisfied with my relationship status or lack thereof.
If you think your “picker” is faulty, it may be due to your childhood
Many women who say similar things to what I’m saying believe they must remove themselves from the dating pool because their “picker” is faulty. That they are solely responsible for choosing to end up with abusive, neglectful, narcissistic, or otherwise horrible men. If only they just “chose better,” they’d live the fairy tale life that the media promised to…
