Reconciliation with a Parental Abuser?
These are the options
“In general, the more dysfunctional the family the more inappropriate their response to disclosure. Never expect a sane response from an insane system.” ~ Renee Fredrickson, Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse
Referred to as the dramatic, emotional, and erratic cluster, the four cluster~b personality disorders are antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic. As a trauma therapist in NYC I often encounter men and women seeking treatment for the mental disorders they incurred from years of psychological, physical, and sexual abuse perpetrated by their cluster~b personality- disordered parents.
Personality Disordered parents lack empathy, are egomaniacal, manipulative, and fixated on status and personae. Through shattering illusions and de-mythologizing, the victimized child awakens to the myriad strategies employed by the abusive parent to maintain power and control.
Typically these men and women committed to their recovery and growth are insightful and courageous. As they heal and dismantle the wreckage of their past, they begin to unravel the complexity of the abuse they endured at the hands of their caregivers. They also begin to expose the pernicious nature of their parents and the ruinous damage brought about by years of parental…
