The Effects of Unprocessed Trauma on Your Emotional Maturity

3 subtle signs of emotional immaturity in your life.

Annie Tanasugarn, PhD
Invisible Illness
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9 min readJun 16, 2024

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As a a psychologist and certified trauma and relationship specialist, I have worked with many clients who have experienced the effects of emotional immaturity on their lives. Some may come to me asking for help with their own feelings of “emptiness”, “dysregulation”, or “numbness”, while others may see me because they are trying to better understand someone in their life who struggles with expressing a healthy range of emotions.

Many are quick to judge a person who is emotionally immature. It’s relatable. While an emotionally immature person may be exciting and fun in the beginning of a relationship, once the fun and games wear off there is not much else to sustain any deeper connection. Yet, before we start pointing fingers at someone for not having the same depth of emotional maturity that we may have, it’s important to recognize that we can only be as emotionally mature as:

1. What was taught to us.

2. What we have since chosen to learn.

The reality is that emotional immaturity is something that can be carried with you because maturity was likely not taught to you in your formative years. You may have developed an emotional delay; an inability for…

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Annie Tanasugarn, PhD
Invisible Illness

Psychologist. Certified Trauma & Relationship Specialist. This is my only account.