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When Fun Becomes a Chore
The hidden struggle for people with chronic conditions
When I read advice about how to manage depression, I’ll often see things like “connecting with friends and family” or some other social-based remedy. While yes, getting out there is good (a visit to a gallery/museum is said to have lasting positive effects), it’s not as easy as it seems for some of us.
I do spend a lot of time outside — but it’s often by myself. I like to go out on my bike or on foot and take photos as part of my self-directed “therapy.” That’s because when I’m alone, I don’t have the added task of conversing with someone, which seems simple to most. But for those like me with depression or social anxiety, it can be taxing.
If I’m out with friends — which is increasingly rare these days — I feel bad for wanting to jet early. The usual scenario is they try to get me to stay, which is nice of them. However, it also leaves me with a feeling of guilt if I pull an Irish exit.
Because of this, I often attend events solo as well, so I can leave whenever I choose. For example, I recently attended an art battle because it was just down the street from my home. When I hit “the wall” (ask any introvert what that means), I was soon back in my living room chair.
Here’s the point: going to a “fun”…
