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When Idealization is a Hidden Trauma
How idolatry can become an insidious trap of worth and redemption
“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol, morphine or idealism.” ― Carl Gustav Jung
People idealize others for a variety of psychological, emotional, and social reasons. It’s a natural tendency tied to our need for connection, meaning, and guidance in life. In fact, children typically idealize their parents during early childhood. It is a natural part of cognitive and emotional development to see one’s parents as all-knowing, powerful, and capable of providing complete security.
As celebrity worship and the cult of personality reveal, idealizing luminaries, activists, religious figures, or politicians can offer a sense of belonging to a larger group or identity. Aligning with a certain community or belief system and glorifying someone who represents those values, makes people feel part of something greater than themselves.
Likewise, idealizing others, whether it’s a partner, a mentor, a public figure, or even a friend, can provide a sense of emotional security. When someone is seen as infallible, it creates a sense of stability because there’s a belief that they can provide solutions, guidance, or protection from life’s uncertainties. This is particularly evident…