Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty for Pushing Them Away
How your perspective changes when you choose growth and healing.
Most of us have been there at one time or another where fears had us fleeing or running from an unstable or dangerous situation. For example, I can recall years ago when I was caught in an active shooter situation where they opened fire. Needless to say, anyone in proximity began literally running for their lives. Similarly, we may recall pushing away and pumping the brakes if someone was coming on too strong on a date, or if a friend tries convincing us to try a thrill seeking activity that violates everything we value as safe and sane.
As humans, we have natural defenses that are activated when we feel threatened or endangered which help us reset our sense of security. No one really bats an eye if we push away or “flee” from a person or situation that is unsafe, such as when we go No Contact with a narcissistic “friend” or leave a situation that compromises our personal safety. Most people will actually congratulate us for taking such an empowering stance to defend ourselves, minus those of course, who fall into the “herd mentality”.
Yet, human evolutionary defenses are not the same thing as psychological defense mechanisms that we use when unresolved trauma surfaces and leaves us scrambling to…
