How to Handle Loyalty? — Jag Chima
I talk a lot about loyalty and often have questions sent to my inbox on how to handle situations where loyalty is concerned.
The truth is that things are quite simple when it comes to loyalty.
The most common question is how to understand your loyal circle to those who are just associates. How not to let your loyalty become your weakness.
So here just are a few points which I had learned:
1. Just because you know someone for a long time, it doesn’t mean they are part of your loyal circle.
2. Don’t believe what they say, believe what they do. Talk is cheap, actions prove character.
3. When they treat you like they don’t care, believe them. Stop convincing yourself otherwise. If they make an effort to be in your life, you will know.
4. Remove expectation from your associates. Just because you would do something for another human don’t expect them to do the same.
5. Always remain calm.
The fact is when you’re loyal, a lot of people take this as your weakness. I know this as I’ve been there so many times.
I am patient but I don’t suggest testing it. I learned to move on swiftly. I don’t have time to waste. I value my time and invest it wisely.
People have to pretend that you’re a bad human so they can justify to themselves for treating you bad. Don’t accept it, you don’t need to prove anything to anyone. Move on. If they care they will make the effort needed, if not you’ve saved a lot of time.
You will soon realize that loyalty is an expensive word thrown around by many like its cheap. Not many understand the real meaning. That’s the beauty, always remember that there is a difference between Swarovski Crystals and diamonds. Less is more.
Sometimes it takes a while to identify the real people and that’s always fine. You learn you become wiser.
The funny thing is, when you’re loyal and you treat people the way they treat you, they become offended. Lol. Wake up and stop accepting crap!
— Jag Chima
