Anger is Not the Problem, Abuse is and They Are Not the Same
Not angry like an incel, but angry like a suffragette.
I have read three posts this week saying anger is a problem and if you’re angry, you’re part of the problem. Which “seems” logical, except it’s wrong, according to real psychologists who don’t write self-help on Medium.
Anger, Abuse and Violence are Different Things.
All three of the articles I read talk about yelling and generally losing your shit as though “anger” and “losing your shit” are synonymous. They’re not.
Too many people think there are only two responses to anger. Stuff it, or take it out on someone. Neither of those is appropriate.
Anger, abuse and violence are different things. What’s more, taking your anger out on someone else is usually abuse or violence, or both.
By itself? Anger is an emotion. That is all.
What you do with it is a different story. You do not have to be abusive or violent because you get angry. Losing your shit isn’t anger. It’s an inappropriate response to anger.
