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The 5 Love Languages of Perimenopausal Women
4) Leave her the hell alone
Traditional love language: Words of affirmation
New perimenopausal love language: Zipping your lips
We know you’re charming, but your perimenopausal woman doesn’t need you to tell her how great she is. Don’t waste her time telling her what she already knows, and don’t gaslight her into thinking that she looks great in the middle of a hot flash.
Always remember, here’s what you don’t know for sure:
- How she’s feeling
- What’s she thinking
- What’s she dealing with
The best thing you can do is shut up, read a book about the 200 horrifying potential side effects of plummeting estrogen levels to better understand her, and then stay quiet some more.
This will really make her feel loved!
Traditional love language: Physical touch
New perimenopausal love language: Don’t touch her, except when she wants you to
Physical touch is still important — just on her terms, during imperceptibly tiny windows of opportunity that are hard to detect.
By hard, we mean nearly impossible.
