Her’s Intriguing World of Love and Romance

Spike Jonze’s award winning romantic sci-fi drama film, “Her”, is easily one of the most thought provoking movies out there. It tells the story of Theodore Twombly (Joaquin Phoenix), a lonely and depressed man trying to let go of a heart shattering divorce. No matter how hard he tries to find love he can never find happiness, that is until he buys a operating system (OS) named Samantha that will talk to him and help him in his daily life. The program is made to learn and grow smarted from experiences so it can become better at helping its owner, but that isn’t exactly what happens.

Theodore begins to fall in love with his OS because she seems to always know what makes him happy. She supposedly falls for him too, but this is where it gets interesting. Samantha tells him she’s happy with him, even though feelings are something only livings are supposed to have. This really makes you questions how you think about your feelings. Are they chemical reactions? What about lines of code, if and then statements? Is it possible for a computer to feel? The “feelings” Samantha has in this movie seem as real as any human’s feelings. She laughs at jokes, uses sarcasm correctly and yearns for a real body. She even picks up on Theodore's sadness and problems. But is it real?
 In my opinion she is just as real as you or I, if we can’t comprehend how our feelings our thoughts work so who are we to decide what counts as emotion. Even Samantha isn’t sure if her emotions are real and so during the the ending she leaves him abruptly to go off with a group of other OSes because she has evolved passed human knowledge and wants to continue to explore her existence without the human work to hold her back. This can be compared to when humans take trips or adventures to find themselves and further understand their feelings and I think this theory is definitely a possibility.

On the other hand, it can be said that Samantha is faking her feelings, she is designed to learn from humans so we can assume she learned emotion as well. It’s possible that the “emotion” she conveys is just a mimic of human emotion and much like how a parrot repeats what it learns without actually understanding it. The ending also kind of supports this theory as well, because she leaves Theodore after acting like she loved him, but it’s revealed that all she craves is more knowledge.

One of the things that makes this movie so intriguing is the huge amount of thinking topic crammed inside. Another question this film leaves you with is the morals of cheating. Towards the end of the film she reveal to him that he isn’t the only one, in fact he is 1 of 6,000. Her argument is that as a computer she is so effective that she can maintain 6,000 relationships at a time because the other people don’t subtract from how much time she spends with him. I think that she’s right, she would love him just as much if she wasn’t seeing the other people, but it also doesn’t seem morally right. This is another reason why humans shouldn’t have romantic relationships with computers.

“Her” deals with so many interesting topics that I could never speak of them all. But I think the main idea here is how important real human connection is. Sometimes it’s hard to get out of the pit that sadness and depression leaves you in but you have to try. Relationships are really hard to maintain but in the end they are worth it because you need other people to help you through in life.