I come from academic medicine. This means I spent years of my life researching, experimenting, writing, and publishing on subjects from neuroscience to oncology to education.
Yet now I’m founding an emotional skills startup. How do the two tie together?
When a man faces his death at the end of a long fight with cancer, or a child is hospitalized for the umpteenth time for a congenital illness, the angst and suffering are far more than physical. The truest suffering is emotional and existential.
“What is the true meaning of my life?”
There’s an old show business adage that seems perfect for our times. “Life is easy,” goes the saying. “Comedy is hard.”
And so when I connected with Trevor Smith, who bills himself as Certified Laughter Leader of the World Laughter Tour, Inc., I knew he would have some good advice for leaders dealing with the hard times of the COVID-19 pandemic.
“We use humor in crises to provide perspective and help us deal with the emotional turmoil and stress that we might be dealing with,” says Smith, a therapist by training. …
I work as a photographer and editor in New York. I have created a successful career for myself but I am still riddled with self-doubt and uncertainty. For background, I identify as Afro-Latinx and grew up in a tiny town in nowhere, USA. I didn’t come from a pedigree, I just worked overtime to form the connections I have today. Despite my age and experience, I feel inadequate in all of the spaces I enter. How can I manage this fear?
~ Supporting Character
Dear Supporting Character,
Growing up as an outsider in a small town can sometimes…
The feeling of guilt and shame after setting well-needed boundaries is all too real. However, the topic of how to deal with it is often missing from the discussions about setting boundaries, which is why it’s time to look back at what we can do to minimize post-boundary setting guilt.
We all have reasons for setting boundaries– what’s yours?
Ask yourself this question every time you find the guilt creeping up on you. Remember, we set boundaries to preserve inner peace, to give us time to recharge our emotional batteries, and to maintain healthy relationships with others, so what motivated…
I’ve been private about my thoughts.
Before this post, I rarely posted publicly. My personal social media accounts are embarrassingly spare, especially for a doctor (a class of human known for talking too much about their academic feats) and an entrepreneur (a class of human known for talking too much in general).
The reason is fear. Things you post in public stay forever, and as an Asian woman, I don’t have the privilege of do-overs.
But the murders of Xiaojie Tan, Daoyou Feng, Soon Chung Park, Hyun Jung Grant, Suncha Kim, and Yong Ae Yue as well as the countless…
Without the physical distance between work and home, drawing a line between our work and personal lives can become a bit tricky, so here are some tips for staying on top of your WFH (working from home) game:
When working at home, it can be super tempting to do your work while lounging on the couch or while lying in bed, but this won’t always lead to optimal productivity. Instead, try picking out a relatively quiet place in your house where you can sit upright and focus on your screen. Ideally, this at-home workspace is one where all your necessities…
As we’ve read in so many headlines in the past several months, the mental health of professionals and executives has taken a strong hit since the pandemic began. In one recent study by health insurer Bupa Global, for instance, nearly eight out of 10 corporate executives have experienced poor mental health during the coronavirus crisis, prompting a number of them to re-evaluate and improve work-life balance.
But is work-life imbalance alone that the culprit? In my career, executive and leadership coaching work, I am seeing so many professionals who are struggling emotionally, physically and mentally in new ways that they…
A little help here. From a young age, I was taught to put others before me. I’ve gone above and beyond with my family, my friends, and my job. It sounds great in theory but it doesn’t leave any space for me to take care of myself. I don’t even feel like me anymore. How can I create new boundaries at work and stop people-pleasing?
~ Mr. Nice Guy
Dear Mr. Nice Guy,
It’s painful to realize that most of our earlier defense mechanisms that worked for us in childhood are now the very same ones holding us…
When creating world-class cultures where extraordinary teams can thrive, great leaders foster a key component, psychological safety. A supportive environment in which all team members feel safe to take risks, voice their opinions, and ask judgment-free questions. A culture where managers provide air cover and create safe zones so employees feel protected and comfortable letting down their guard.
Research shows that teams operating with psychological safety have employees who are less likely to leave, more likely to harness the power of diversity, and ultimately, who are more productive and successful. …
Imposter syndrome is no stranger to me. Eight years post-school, I’m on my third career trajectory. While each builds upon the prior in some way, shape, or form, breaking into a new industry undoubtedly feels intimidating. With every pivot, the same daunting thoughts go through my head, “Should I already know this? Is this how it’s supposed to be done? Is my boss going to like this?” The list goes on and on.
I’ve always told myself that I’m lucky I somehow manage to land a job in a new field — insert imposter syndrome. If you’re anything like me…
Building emotional health and intelligence through practice