fight or flight ; the science of love
Love is irritatingly natural. It’s insane.
I am not someone who fancies scientists or people that always see something in a more scientific way. I don’t consider myself as one either to be honest.
However, you aware of how often people will always know a way to explain why science and love and attraction are somehow related?
Ever heard a story from a friend when their heart was beating so fast everytime they talked to their significant other it felt like it was all over their body they could burst at any moment?
Or how that black circle in the centre of their eyes are widened everytime they locked their eyes with their crush’s?
For these past two years I have been taught and studying about humans and everything related to them, from the biggest part to the smallest, the most microcospic thing about them. Well, everyone surely knows what I am talking about.
I am still not a fan of scientist, though, but I do love humans. It is complicated but let’s just leave it as it is.
We know that human is just complicated. Physically, and emotionally. It is hard to understand them, to be aware of what they really desire, of what they would die for.
Oddly enough, once you find yourself in a position of understanding a small bit of science, it seems somewhat simple when it comes to love and attraction.
Just like when your friend’s heart beating so fast or their pupils widened, there is always a reason behind every thing that happened. There is always a scientific way to explain it.
There is this system in our body to control everything which we call sympathetic nervous system. Some of their works are to control the pumping heart and the dilation of the eyes.
I always find it attractive that another way to call this system is the “fight or flight” system. This system is part of the autonomic nerve system which doesn’t need us to be in control because it always works unconsciously to do their job.
The eyes are one of the most sensitive parts of our bodies. It changes in the presence of light, it adjusts so we can see well, but it also shows the human’s emotional state.
It is scientifically proved that this system explains on how we choose about what we do next once we are put in some situation we haven’t been before. It explains whether we choose to “fight” or to “flight”, whether we choose to “struggle” or to “escape.”
The pupils will attractively dilate when the human is faced with difficult tasks, they also dilate just right before they do something they really desire.
Now let’s pull some strings and see how this scientific thingy related to love and attraction.
It is simply beautiful how someone’s heart beating faster everytime they are with someone they want to be with or how a mere thoughts about their significant other making them hold their chest because the pumping is just insane and irrational or how the eyes shiningly widened it shows stars everytime they talked about or with their lover.
See? It is the fight or flight, the struggle or escape, the “f*ck it I’m gonna do this” or “I can’t do this”, the time we choose to find a solution or we know that this, this is how we choose to completely give up on everything.
Love is just whether we choose fighting, struggling, finding every way possible, or we are escaping and giving up on everything. Love is something we somewhat earned. It exists along with the beautiful struggles and fights we battled in the process.
Love is so beautiful. It surely requires just as much for us to earn it.
Love is not something simple. It is complicated. It is hard. It is one of the hardest battles we won.
