Just as no two people taste the same dish in the same way
“Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.”
“We cannot control the wind, but we can adjust our sails to maintain direction.” — Dolly Parton
Recently, I’ve found myself in frequent disagreement with those around me. However, what I’ve learned in these past weeks is that my dissenting views don’t imply a lack of respect or animosity towards others. Not at all.
We all have differing perspectives because we each lead different lives. I’m increasingly grasping the significance of the phrase ‘it’s okay to be different.’ Yet, sometimes, I choose silence not out of timidity to express my opinions further, but rather to carefully discern with whom I can truly share them. It doesn’t mean I seek out those with identical viewpoints; rather, it’s about ensuring that speaking out isn’t in vain or draining of energy.
Debates are a natural part of human interaction. When two or more people hold differing views, intense discussions often arise. However, there’s a beauty in heated debates concluding with reconciliation and deeper understanding of one another.
Debates allow us to see different perspectives. By listening to others’ arguments, we’re introduced to viewpoints we may have never considered before. This enriches our understanding of an issue and helps us see problems from various angles. In many cases, debates can be incredibly valuable learning experiences.
One of my favorite English novelists, Virginia Woolf once said, ‘To truly see something, we must look at it from a different perspective.’
Participating in debates also helps us hone communication skills. We learn to construct logical arguments, listen attentively, and respond appropriately. Engaging in debates, especially intense ones, forces us to understand our opponent’s position. This can enhance our empathy. Understanding why someone holds a particular view, even if we disagree, can help build bridges of understanding.
Ending debates amicably demonstrates the ability to resolve conflicts wisely. It’s a sign of emotional maturity and social intelligence. Instead of holding onto hatred or resentment, we choose to forgive and move forward positively. This can lead to stronger, healthier relationships.
When we can resolve differences amicably, we set a positive example for others. It shows that differing opinions don’t have to end in hostility. We can disagree and still respect each other. This is an important lesson, particularly in a world often divided by differences.
As the Chinese philosopher Confucius, from the 6th century BC, said, ‘Wisdom is knowing what is right; virtue is doing what is right.’ It reminds us that knowing the truth is the first step, but what’s more important is how we act upon that understanding. In the context of debate, this means that reaching common understanding is important, but what’s nobler is how we use that understanding to build bridges, not walls.
Train yourself not to get easily offended.
Healthy debates ending in reconciliation are not only possible but also highly beneficial. Therefore, in my view, there’s no need to hate or disrespect those with differing opinions. How you live is not about how firmly you set your resolve; it’s all about how you navigate it, as long as those differences remain within the bounds of morality and ethics.
And that’s a wrap for now. Stay curious, stay cool, and keep the conversation going. Peace out!
