You design it: your journey to recovery
“These pains you feel are messengers. Listen to them.”-Rumi
“It’s your road and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.”
In our life’s journey, we often encounter experiences that leave us wounded. Whether it’s losing a loved one, the end of a relationship, or shattered dreams, the healing process can feel like trying to fix a broken vase with trembling hands. We long for a quick fix, a magic formula to erase the pain and restore us to who we once were. However, true healing isn’t about forcing ourselves to move on or burying our emotions under a facade of strength. It’s about embracing the natural flow of healing, allowing ourselves to feel, process, and ultimately, let go.
“You cannot force healing. You can only intend it, and then allow it.” Healing isn’t a goal we can achieve through sheer willpower; it’s a journey of self-discovery and acceptance. Just as we can’t command the rain to stop or the sun to shine, we can’t dictate how quickly our wounds will heal. Instead, we must set our intention to heal and surrender to the ongoing process.
Like each drop of rain in a storm must find its place on the ground, every sensation in our body must be processed and released fully. We can’t rush this process or skip the uncomfortable parts. We must allow ourselves to sit with our pain, acknowledge it without judgment, and let it flow through us like a river finding its course.
This process isn’t linear; it’s full of twists and turns, highs and lows. Just when we think we’ve reached calm waters, a wave of emotions might wash over us. In these tumultuous moments, we realize that healing isn’t a one-time event but a continuous journey of growth and self-discovery.
We are not just letting go of an experience, a person, or a place; we are releasing all our assumptions, expectations, and beliefs that no longer serve us. It’s a process of shedding layers of conditioning and societal norms to reveal the essence of who we truly are underneath.
It takes time — time to unravel the web of emotions, time to heal deep wounds, and time to rediscover ourselves amid the chaos. So, we must grant ourselves the gift of patience and self-compassion. We need to create space for quiet reflection and introspection, allowing ourselves to rest.
What we gain from this process far exceeds what we think we might lose if we keep everything hidden. We become stronger, wiser, and more resilient than before. We learn to embrace the full spectrum of human experience, realizing that pain and suffering are not obstacles to avoid but opportunities for growth and transformation.
You just need a simple place to live, and better days will find you.
“You’re okay.”
Yes, you’re okay — not because everything is perfect, but because you have the courage to face life’s uncertainties head-on. You’re okay not because you’re immune to pain, but because you possess the resilience to endure it. You’re okay not because you have all the answers, but because you’re willing to embrace the journey, with all its twists and turns, with an open heart and a steadfast spirit.
You’re okay not because everyone adores you or because you’ve never been hurt. You’re okay not because you know exactly what the future holds. You’re okay despite every reason you shouldn’t be. You’re still standing. You’re still here, soothing your inner storms, searching for answers, and trying, even if trying means just making it through another night.
In the end, as Rumi wisely questioned, “Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?” Let us remember, healing isn’t merely about erasing our scars or reclaiming our past selves; it’s about embracing the intricate beauty of our humanity amidst the chaos, and within that acceptance, finding the serenity that guides us back to wholeness once more.
If darkness blinds you, let your own inner light be your guide.
Cheers!
